
Several years ago, I was working in a company with a newly christened CEO. I, and several of my colleagues, had known him for a long time in his various roles within the organization. We had good working relationships with him, and I was especially excited about his elevation into the top spot. I was certain he would do a great job.
It didn’t take long before I began to wonder about that. One of those colleagues of mine had a meeting with him, and during the meeting, he shared with the CEO that trust issues were developing with some of our distributors. The CEO quickly cut him off and told him he didn’t want to hear that kind of information. He added he didn’t want people bringing him bad news, and if you didn’t have anything good to share, then you best share nothing at all.
I heard similar stories from others, so I decided to give it a shot myself. I too was quickly shut down and basically told to come back when I had something good to share. I continued working there for several more years, but was never in the CEO’s office again. I never had another conversation pertaining to business with him. After announcing my departure from the company I had worked at for 28 years I still never again heard another word from him.
It seemed to many of us that he really, really, really didn’t want to risk hearing anything challenging from anyone.
And that’s sad because it has cost the company a lot over the years. A lot of money, of course, but a ton of relationships and goodwill in the marketplace as well. He receives lots of information, but it is all filtered through the lens of people telling him what he wants to hear. The lack of listening to a broad spectrum of voices, more than anything else, has also damaged the culture of the organization, perhaps beyond repair.
There are many skills that are vital for effective leadership, and listening intently is very close to the top of the list. Authentic Leaders listen particularly closely to the things they don’t want to hear. For leaders, listening to both good AND bad news is nothing short of a superpower. It’s the key to building trust, fostering innovation, and driving meaningful change. Great leaders don’t just speak—they hear, understand, and act on what they learn. Here’s why listening is a game-changer for leadership and how to harness its power.
Why Listening Is a Leadership Superpower
1. It Builds Trust and Connection
People want to be heard. When a leader listens—truly listens—employees, colleagues, and stakeholders feel valued. This creates psychological safety, where team members are more likely to share ideas, voice concerns, or admit mistakes. A 2020 study by Google’s Project Aristotle found that psychological safety is the top factor in high-performing teams. Listening lays the foundation for it.
2. It Fuels Better Decisions
No leader has all the answers. Listening to diverse perspectives—whether from frontline employees, customers, or critics—uncovers insights that might otherwise be missed. Take Satya Nadella, CEO of Microsoft, who revitalized the company by listening to employees and customers, shifting the culture toward collaboration and innovation. Listening ensures decisions are grounded in reality, not assumptions.
3. It Sparks Innovation
Ideas don’t come from the top alone. When leaders listen to their teams, they tap into a wellspring of creativity. Employees closest to the work often have the best solutions but need a leader who’s willing to hear them out. Pixar’s “Braintrust” meetings, where leaders listen to candid feedback on films, have led to some of the most iconic movies ever made. Listening creates space for breakthroughs.
4. It Defuses Conflict
Misunderstandings and tensions thrive in environments where people feel ignored. Active listening—acknowledging emotions and clarifying concerns—can de- escalate conflicts before they spiral. It shows respect, even in disagreement, and paves the way for solutions that work for everyone.
How to Cultivate Listening as a Leadership Skill
Listening isn’t just about being quiet while someone else talks. It’s an active, intentional practice. Here’s how leaders can master it:
1. Be Present
Put away distractions—yes, that means your phone—and focus entirely on the speaker. Maintain eye contact, nod, and show you’re engaged. Presence signals respect and encourages openness.
2. Ask Open-Ended Questions
Instead of jumping to solutions, ask questions like, “Can you tell me more?” or “What do you think we should do?” This invites deeper insights and shows you value the speaker’s perspective.
3. Reflect and Clarify
Paraphrase what you’ve heard to ensure understanding. For example, “It sounds like you’re saying the team feels stretched thin—am I getting that right?” This not only avoids miscommunication but also makes the speaker feel heard.
4. Hold Space for Silence
Don’t rush to fill pauses. Silence gives people time to process and share more. It’s uncomfortable at first, but it’s where the real insights often emerge.
5. Listen Without an Agenda
Avoid mentally preparing your response while someone is talking. Let go of the need to “fix” or steer the conversation. Sometimes, people just need to be heard, not solved.
6. Act on What You Hear
Listening without follow-through breeds cynicism. If you hear concerns or ideas, acknowledge them and take action where possible. Even small steps show you’re listening—and that it matters.
The Ripple Effect of Listening
When leaders listen, the impact cascades. Teams become more engaged, creative, and loyal. Organizations make smarter decisions and adapt faster. And leaders themselves grow, gaining humility and wisdom from the voices around them. In a noisy world, the leader who listens stands out—not by shouting louder, but by hearing better.
Final Thoughts
Listening isn’t flashy, but it’s powerful. It’s the superpower that turns good leaders into great ones. By making people feel seen, heard, and valued, listening transforms workplaces and relationships. So, the next time you’re tempted to dominate a conversation or rush to a solution, pause. Listen. You might be surprised at the strength you find in silence.
Call to Action: Try this today—set aside 10 minutes to listen to someone on your team without interrupting or offering solutions. Just hear them. Then, reflect on what you learned. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.
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