I can’t think of even a single benefit of excuse making. People who make excuses make very little of anything else. Excuses, as much as anything, limit a person’s opportunity to reach their full potential.
Excuses are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events, and circumstances. They are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to postpone taking action or simply as a means of avoiding responsibility.
Excuses are a temporarily effective method of placing the blame for an internal problem on an external condition. I say temporarily because sooner or later the excuse maker realizes whatever excuse they made was really a lie they told themselves….and likely lots of other people.
Fear is the biggest driver of habitual excuse making. Fear of failure, fear of change, fear of responsibility, fear of making mistakes, fear of looking foolish, and for some people, fear of success.
Excuse making leads directly to a lack of growth. It leads to living in a very small comfort zone and it is a leading cause of a negative attitude in the excuse maker. People who hesitate to make decisions seldom delay in making an excuse.
Nothing good comes from making excuses.
If you want to stop making excuses then focus on what can go right rather than what may go wrong. Don’t compare your current situation with a past situation that had a negative outcome.
Don’t focus on problems. Focus on solutions and opportunities to learn and improve.
If you want to put a stop to your excuse making then surround yourself with as many positive people as possible. Share with them your goal of making fewer excuses and ask them for help. Ask them to remind you of your goal whenever they hear what sounds like an excuse coming from you.
Finally, make the decision to control your attitude. Every day you have the opportunity to choose either a positive attitude or a negative one. It’s likely your most important choice of the day.
Successful people don’t make excuses. They take responsibility for their decisions and actions and they learn from their mistakes.
Always remember, if you’re making excuses you almost certainly are not making much of anything else.
Great post Steve. Hey, in the sentence that reads, “Nothing good comes from making decisions.”, was it supposed to say, “Nothing good comes from making excuses?”.
Yep, thanks for the catch Scott!
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I agree with your comments when the excuse is controlled by the individual. When it is truly an external event or unforeseen event, the focus should be on avoiding or planning for that risk as a means of moving forward (e.g., we plan a system go live but a storm wipes out power for three days at the time of planned go live – in this case the “excuse” is real and should be used as a learning experience, not just an excuse). Thus to your point of, “Focus on solutions and opportunities to learn and improve.”
Thanks Mark, you make a good point. I think your storm example is better described as a reason. A reason has concrete evidence to support it. An excuse is a vague statement with nothing to actually support it…
I can buy that Steve. 🙂 Keep on posting!
Thank you. I am taking note of this.
You’re welcome, I’m glad you found it useful.
I did Steve; and I am mentioning you in one of my posts to be published today or tomorrow as soon as I finish writing.
Thank you, I’m honored!
It’s a joy for me Steve.
Thank you for sharing my posts, I appreciate it!
Hi Steve, in this article when you said “Nothing good comes from making decisions.” Did you mean “Nothing good comes from making EXCUSES”?I want to make sure I’m understanding it correctly. I’m catching up on reading your articles now. Your articles have been a blessing!
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Yep, I meant excuses, it’s been updated on the site. Thanks!