Leading Doesn’t Make You a Better Person

When most people think of leading they tend to think of leading people “below” themselves in a business or organization. That is a very dangerous way to think because it’s hard to think of people “below” you without also thinking you’re somehow “above” the people you lead.

You also might begin to delude yourself into thinking you are somehow a “better” person than the people you lead. If you’re truly going to lead then you had best understand from your very first day as a leader that no title or position makes you a better person than anyone else. 

It’s not even your title or position that makes you a leader. Your thinking and your actions make you a leader. Even more than that, it’s your people that make you a leader because no matter what you think or do, if no one is following then you’re not leading. 

I am a strong believer in the concept of 360 degree leadership and I understand the reality of different “levels” within any organization. Unless you’re actually at the top of your organizational chart there will likely always be people above and below you on that chart. 

The secret to being an Authentic Servant Leader is to never think for a moment that because someone is below you on an organizational chart that they are somehow below you in life.

People are where they are in their lives for a lot of reasons. Some had more luck than others, some made more luck than others. Some maybe were born with more advantages, some perhaps married into additional advantages. Some people may have earned a higher station in life and then somehow lost it. Our lot in life changes, sometimes because of what we did, sometimes because of what we didn’t do and sometimes it changes for no apparent reason.

The point is we are really pretty much all the same and the moment you start thinking you’re hot stuff is the very moment you begin the lose the empathy and compassion required to actually be an Authentic Servant Leader.

If you’ve been blessed with a leadership title or position, or if you’ve truly been blessed and have been given the ability to lead others without needing a title or position, then accept that blessing with humility. 

No one is better than you and you’re no better than anyone else. It’s life’s perfect balance! 

When we start thinking we’re better, or worse than someone else, then that balance is thrown off. Pretty much every problem, issue and challenge we will ever have is in some way caused by that “off-balance” thinking. 

Every person is in some way special. When you understand that simple fact then and only then do you have the opportunity to be a truly special leader.

8 thoughts on “Leading Doesn’t Make You a Better Person

  1. Hi Steve

    Thanks for the article…..

    I believe that when we think of top and bottom of an Org chart then we are thinking about managing and not leading. One up approvals – getting permission or approval from one’s superior – its all about rank. I like the servant leader idea a lot, but lets not vilify “managers” at the same time, some things (and not people) need to be managed – think process, workflow, goals and targets.

    Great leaders in history have led from the front, not necessarily the top. Maybe this is semantics – but I think managers are more prone to superiority complexes than leaders. Its when process managers, assume they are automatically leaders that we run into problems.

    Just my two cents

    Terry Woolford
    http://www.bizblot.com

    • I agree Terry, 100%. There are very clear differences between managing and leading. When someone in a management position thanks that their position makes them a leader that’s when real trouble begins. 😊

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