Many leadership gurus and experts say that in order to truly lead people you must care about them. While I would never claim the mantle of leadership expert or guru I would certainly agree that caring for people is an essential quality of leadership.
You either care about people or you don’t. There is no in between. You don’t have to like someone personally to care about them, it certainly is easier but for an Authentic Servant Leader “liking” someone is not required to care about them.
You can’t really teach someone to care but you can help them see value in other people and seeing value in someone is where caring begins. I’m not talking about “value” in terms of what they can do for you, the value I’m taking about is the value that a human being brings to the table just by being themselves.
A great measure of authenticity in a leader is how they treat people who can absolutely nothing for them. If they are still willing to help, support and guide that individual when they know there will be no personal return on that time investment then it’s highly likely they actually care about other people.
An early step on the road to becoming an Authentic Servant Leader is to understand that every person has value, even the ones who are different than you and even the ones who hide their value deep inside. If your prerequisite for caring about someone is that they think and act just like you then you may be a boss but you are most certainly not an Authentic Servant Leader.
Authentic Servant Leaders understand the value of diverse opinions and thoughts and they work to learn from people different than themselves. If you’re surrounding yourself with like-minded people then you will struggle to grow as a leader. It is by allowing other people to be who they are that you become a better person and a better leader.
Your leadership is about the people you lead, it is not about you. People will not truly follow you until they know that you truly care about them and if they don’t follow then you cannot lead. It’s a pretty simple equation.
The challenge for Authentic Servant Leaders is not just caring for people that they don’t like, the ultimate challenge is caring for people they actually dislike. President Abraham Lincoln once said, “I don’t like that man, I must get to know him better.”
Do you have the courage of Lincoln to invest time with those you truly dislike in order to discover the unique value they bring into the world? If you do then you will create the opportunity for yourself to really care about them.
It’s truly a challenge to care for someone you would rather avoid when you see them coming down the hall. It’s a challenge that Authentic Servant Leaders are willing to accept.
Are you willing to accept it?
7 thoughts on “The Caring Leader”
very nicely put Steve – thankyou
Thank YOU Sir!
One of your best posts Steve.
The most notable quality of a caring leader is that we know it when we experience it . It can’t be faked, at least not for long. That said, we all have days, seasons, moments where we are stretched. We certainly can’t be all things to all people, and sometimes people want more from us than we are capable of giving. And yet, when some of us know what it is like to be treated by leaders who don’t care, many of us don’t ever want to intentionally treat anyone else that way.
May we all grow in our capacity to truly care about people.
Thanks for sharing Steve.
Thanks Samantha, “caring” is a bit like love. It’s hard to describe but you absolutely know it when you see it. You know when you don’t see it too and when you don’t see it you almost can’t commit to follow the uncaring person…even if you wanted to.
It’s never a bad time to remind us of this. Thank you.
Thanks Michael, I’m glad you enjoyed the post.