There has been a lot of talk in the news lately, at least in the U.S. of second chances. Specifically the conversation has centered around when and IF people deserve a second chance.
I suppose the politically correct and sensitive answer is: yes, people always deserve a second chance.
That’s an easy answer in theory but in practice it’s not so simple.
No one will ever accuse me of being overly politically correct but in this instance, maybe only in this instance, I believe the politically correct answer is actually the right answer. People really do deserve a second chance. Maybe a more specially correct answer would be other people deserve a second chance.
We seldom need to be reminded that we deserve a second chance, I mean, we’re only human, we make mistakes. We deserve a chance to “do better next time.”
So does every other person.
But again, giving second chances is often easier said than done. When the other person’s “mistake” has directly impacted us it is harder to give them a do over. It’s harder but not impossible. Some mistakes however are so big it’s hard to even call it a mistake, it might just be a lie, or even a crime. Still, it’s not impossible, only harder.
Just remember “second” means 2, it means another. It doesn’t mean 3 or 4 or 5. It doesn’t mean another and another. If someone continually does you wrong then YOU deserve to walk away from them.
Here’s a question to ask yourself when determining if someone else deserves a second chance: if you had done the identical thing, would YOU want and deserve a second chance? Answer HONESTLY….
There’s your answer. If you deserve a second chance then why doesn’t the next person?
If you answered no to that question you need to ask it again. Ask it again while keeping in mind that you are special, you are valuable, you matter. You deserve to be allowed to try again. Never forget that amazing FACT!
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Thanks Carly, I appreciate your kindness in sharing my post!
The only thing I would add is: a true mistake means they’re still trying and, I beleive, easier to forgive vs. someone that did nothing and then asks for a second chance. I enjoyed this article.
Thanks Dave, you make a great point when you say “true” mistake. That indicates a sincere effort and those kinds of mistakes are indeed easier to get past.
What if between what you think is the 1st and 2nd chance, the person has repeated the ‘mistake’ over a career – dozens of times and we just weren’t aware of them. They’re seeking the “2nd” chance only now that they have been caught.
What to give “another” chance is a personal decision but mistakes that someone “got away with” are still mistakes so it’s a tough call.
For me, if someone stole from me 100 times before I caught them I don’t think I’d give them a chance to make it 101 times… but that’s just me.