How to Change Your Life

You have many choices to make each day. What you eat. Who you spend your time with. What you wear. What time you go to bed. Where you work. What route you drive to work. What kind of car you drive that route in. The list is truly endless. 

Some people will dispute even the items on that very short list above. They will say “I have no choice but to work where I do, there are no others jobs available.” They will complain that they “have so much to do” that their bedtime is NOT their choice, they are often up later than they want to be.

Most of the examples that people would use to dispute even my short list above are just excuses. They are the excuses that people make in order to avoid taking charge of their life. 

I am constantly amazed at how easily people surrender the right to make choices that have a profound impact on their lives. They simply fail to realize that when they give up their right to choose they give up the opportunity to choose their life.

All of the choices that people give up, none is more devastating than giving up the choice of their attitude. Everyday people let other people and events determine whether they are in a “good mood” or not. Where folks, that “mood” as you call it looks a lot like an attitude to the people around you.

You’re kidding only yourself when you say you have a great attitude but you’re just moody. There is very little difference between the two.

You cannot control the attitude of everyone you come into contact with. You cannot always control the events that make up your day. What you can and must control is how you respond to them. THAT will determine your attitude. 

Here’s your choice, and it’s one you get to make everyday and multiple times everyday. Will your attitude be a thermostat that sets it’s own “temperature” or will it be a thermometer that simply reflects the temperature of those around it?

The most successful people understand this profound fact: No one and nothing can take your positive attitude away from you unless YOU let it happen. 

It’s your choice. 

The choice to maintain a positive attitude in the face of difficult people and difficult challenges will do more to improve the quality of your life than any other single thing you can do. 

Some days it will be a fight to maintain that attitude. Some days it may seem like a war. It’s a fight worth fighting for anyone who truly wants to control their life. Do You?

7 thoughts on “How to Change Your Life

  1. Steve, I say blues to this awesome article.
    I agree with you that the choices we make are a factor of how we respond to events and not the event itself.
    Everyday, I need to ask myself if I have responded to an event in the right way.

    If I have overcomed the fears that wants to impede my success. Because I have recognised that the ability to face one’s fear is an opportunity to catapult oneself to greater height.

    Thanks again

  2. I am trying real hard to change my life. This post should help me. I am scared to be honest with you and not having any friends still doesn’t make it rebuilding any easier. (If you want to read about how it is going, I am writing a blog about it at )

    1. Thanks Joe, I hope it really does help. Starting over is very hard, it takes courage. You’re right it’s much harder without a support group of friends. That’s were some of the courage comes in… The courage to face the loneliness and the deep sadness that goes with it.

      It’s sounds like you’ve made the decision to try and I applaud that 100%. I firmly believe that’s it’s better to be alone for the right reasons than to be with people for the wrong reasons.

      Hang in there, surly there will be bumpy days ahead but knowing it’s all part of the growth process helps. There is always loss associated with starting over, it creates kind of a gap in us but the sooner you replace the loss with a new challenge, new job, new friends (ones who really care about you) the sooner the gap is filled.

      Best of luck to you Joe, you’ve begun, that’s an accomplishment many other people cannot claim!

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