I’m told that as a kid I was particularly annoying to people because I asked so many questions. Apparently my favorite question was why. That is still the case today. Not that I’m annoying (I hope) but that my favorite question remains why.
Why should be your favorite question too. In almost every circumstance you should be asking why.
Why do I do the things I do. Why is my boss asking me to do the things they ask me to do. Why am I asking the people I lead to do the things I’m asking them to do. Why does my company have our current policies and procedures in place. Why don’t people ask why more?
You know how little kids will sometimes ask an endless string of why questions? Well those kids are on to something. But those kids also have an advantage over grownups, the kids don’t need courage to ask why. As we get older it seems asking that question requires a lot more courage. The most successful people find the courage to be like kids.
You can tell me you’re a highly productive person but if you can’t tell my why you do the things you do, with a high level of specificity, then you don’t really know if you are actually as productive as you could be.
If you’re a leader and you can’t explain, again with a high level of specificity, why you’re asking your people to do specific tasks and assignments then you should not be asking them to do them.
And just so we are crystal clear on this point, “we have always done it this way” is NOT a high level of specificity.
Too many “leaders” still think being asked “why” by one of their people is an affront to their authority. Authentic Leaders don’t need authority to lead, they use their influence instead. They willingly answer the “why” questions with as much detail as they can muster.
The next time one of your people asks “why” tell them. Tell them why you’ve asked them in particular. Share with them why the task or assignment is important to the organization. Include how it helps you and how it can help your team member grow and develop. If you don’t have any of those answers then you REALLY need to ask yourself why you’re asking someone to perform that task.
Most of all, understand it is not a weakness to answer your teams “why” questions. It is in fact the strength of an Authentic Leader.
As an individual, if you’re not asking yourself a why question at least once a day you may be doing things that are burning up your valuable time without giving you any value in return. That is not a path to prosperity. That is also not a path to happiness.
I’d rather be annoying and know why I’m doing what I’m doing instead of mindlessly doing what I’ve always done. Even if that means annoying myself sometimes.
So be a kid again. Ask why until you know why you’re doing what you’re doing. It’s way better than just doing stuff to do it.
7 thoughts on “Why?”
The Socratic Method! Thank you for this reminder. (I’m teaching a new fire officer class today and will share this, if I have time).
Thanks Marc, it’s always an honor when someone thinks enough of one of my posts to pass it on.
“Some people see things the way they are and ask why. I dream of things that never were and ask, why not?” George Bernard Shaw
One of my favorite quotes. Often attributed to Robert Kennedy but pretty sure George said it first. 🙂
I was that annoying kid too. You just opened an entire range of memories. Thanks for sharing!
🙂 Glad I could help!