Do You Own Your Smartphone?

Do you own your smartphone … or does your smartphone own you? If your smartphone is really smart it would tell you when to put it down and pay attention to the world around you. 

This “post” is almost as much of a rant as it is a post and it comes from something I saw just a few days ago. Now don’t get me wrong, I really really like my smartphone. I am what Apple would consider a “power user,” I have 257 apps (I just counted) on my iPhone and I even use it as an actual phone too. Some apps I use way more than others but they are all useful in some way.

As much as I use my phone I really try to NOT let it come between me and human interaction. I own it specifically to help me stay connected to other human beings. There are times and places I simply refuse to use it. I will not use it while dining, I will not use it while standing in line at a checkout counter in a store. (unless I’m using Apple Pay)

I will not use it anytime in a group where I would be even slightly annoyed if someone else were using their phone. I will not even glance at it in a movie theater. I will NOT TEXT or email while driving a car. As useful as a smartphone can be there is a time and place to use it. The time is NOT always and the place is NOT everywhere. 

Common sense still applies and so do common human relations principles. It seems however that those two things are not so common anymore. 

So, a few days ago I stopped by my usual gas station store to pick up a 52oz Diet Coke. (yes, I’ve heard that Diet Coke isn’t good for me) When I walked into the store I could see there was a line at the soda fountain machine. That is beyond unusual, there is never a line. As I got closer I saw the reason for the delay: there was a person at the soda machine on their smartphone gabbing away. Others were waiting their turn behind the person even though the person was not filling a soda cup, they were just talking on the phone. 

When the woman immediately behind the person on the phone kindly asked them to step aside the person on the phone interrupted their call long enough to tell the person behind them to “wait their turn,” then they continued talking.

I’d only been in line 10 or 15 seconds but this was just too much for me. I went around the line and told the person on the phone to take the call outside and get out of the way. I’ll admit I didn’t say it pleasantly and it wasn’t said as a suggestion but come on. I don’t care how important the call was it does not allow for a complete and utter lack of common sense.

This uncommon occurrence is becoming all too common. Smartphones have become a two-edged sword, they can save time and they can make a person look inconsiderate and rude. Or maybe, just maybe, the person using it IS inconsiderate and rude and the smartphone just exposes those traits.

Smartphones are really only smart when the people using them are smart enough to know when NOT to use them. No matter how nice your smartphone is, no matter how much time it saves you, no matter how good a picture it takes you still need to make sure that you own it and that it’s not the other way around.


8 thoughts on “Do You Own Your Smartphone?

  1. I love the people at stop lights who, when the light turns GREEN, hold up a finger (as in “just a second”) in the rear view mirror to let the person behind them know they’ll just be a few more seconds/minutes finishing their email or text! Argh!


  2. I agree that there is a time and place to use one’s smartphones. They’re so hard to do without nowadays, though. :\ Sometimes I’m not even sure if that’s a good thing.

    1. I guess like so many things in life it requires discipline to make a smartphone really work for YOU.

      It is hard, I’ve tried and have not yet succeeded in going a whole weekend without touching my phone.

      I think I’ll try again now that I have an Apple Watch 😀

  3. I believe the smart phone merely allows for the users true personality to be exposed. The rude users didn’t become rude because of the smart phone – they were already an offensive person and the smart phone just allows us to see who they are.

    1. I think you are at least partially correct. If we give people the benefit of the doubt then it’s possible they just don’t realize how rude they are being… but social skills are not suspended because you have a phone in your hand.

  4. Good observation as this is common even here in Kenya and many accidents have occurred because of misuse or abuse of mobile phones.
    Charles Lwanga

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