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The Power of Perspective: How to Keep Life’s Challenges in Check

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Sometimes we get so overwhelmed that everything seems to set us off. A tough critique at work, a spat with a friend, a never-ending to-do list—suddenly, the world can feel like it’s crashing down. But the truth is, most of what stresses us out are just small pieces of a much larger, more complex puzzle.

Learning how to keep things in perspective isn’t about ignoring problems; it’s about developing a mindset that prevents minor setbacks from hijacking your overall well-being.

I’m a big believer in living in what Dale Carnegie called, “Day-Tight Compartments.” Living each day in its own 24 hours. That means not allowing yesterday’s “stuff” to impact today’s efforts. It means not over-worrying about tomorrow’s events at the cost of today’s happiness and productivity.

Living in Day-Tight Compartments is the superpower that lets you navigate storms without sinking your entire ship.

Here are a few practical strategies you can use to zoom out and regain your footing when life feels too big and your Day-Tight Compartment starts to get a little leaky.

1. The 10/10/10 Rule

When you’re facing a stressful decision or a major upset, try asking yourself these three simple questions:

How will I feel about this in 10 minutes? (Immediate impact)

How will I feel about this in 10 months? (Mid-term impact)

How will I feel about this in 10 years? (Long-term impact)

Most of the things that cause immediate distress—that awkward email, a spilled coffee, a missed deadline—will have zero emotional weight in 10 months or 10 years. This exercise instantly shifts your focus from the current drama to the long-term reality, often shrinking the problem down to its true, manageable size.

2. The “Worst-Case Scenario” Check

Our minds are masters of catastrophizing. When we feel anxious, we often jump straight to the most dramatic, scary outcomes without checking the facts.

Next time you feel a worry spiraling, take a moment to define the absolute worst-case scenario. Write it down. Then, ask yourself two more questions:

How likely is this truly to happen? (Be honest, not fearful.)

If it did happen, what is the absolute minimum I could do to recover?

By confronting the “worst” and creating a fallback plan, you strip away its power. You realize that even if the worst happens, you would be okay, and you have the resourcefulness to handle it. You move from panic to planning. This will take a ton of weight off your shoulders.

3. Embrace the “Circle of Concern vs. Circle of Influence”

This concept, popularized by Stephen Covey, is critical for reducing stress over things you cannot control.

Circle of Concern: Everything you worry about—the economy, the weather, what others think of you, a coworker’s bad mood.

Circle of Influence: The things you can actually do something about—your effort, your attitude, your boundaries, and how you spend your time.

When stress hits, identify what part of the problem falls into your Circle of Influence. Don’t waste energy fretting over the weather (Concern); focus on bringing an umbrella (Influence). By dedicating your time and energy only to what you can control, you become more effective and less burdened.

4. Practice Gratitude Daily

It sounds almost silly, but a consistent gratitude practice is one of the most powerful tools for perspective. When you focus on what you lack or what went wrong, you narrow your vision. Gratitude forces you to widen it.

Take three minutes every morning or evening to list three specific things you are genuinely grateful for. It could be your morning coffee, a good night’s sleep, or the support of a friend.

This simple act reminds you that even on a bad day, your life is filled with existing good things—and the minor setback you’re currently facing doesn’t invalidate any of them. It puts your troubles into a richer, fuller context, which tends to shrink them.

A Final Thought: You Are More Than Your Problems

Remember that you are not your immediate circumstances. Hope is the understanding that our current circumstances are very unlikely to be our permanent circumstances. A bad day is a single data point, not a complete picture of your life. That means we always have hope. When you feel trapped by a current challenge, step back, breathe, and use one of these tools to zoom out.

The ability to keep things in perspective isn’t a trait you’re born with; it’s a skill you build, day by day, worry by worry. Start practicing today, and watch how much smaller and easier to manage your challenges become.

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How to Take Control of Your Life

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It’s easy to get stuck in the floaty trap. You know the one, the one that feels like you’re just floating along, letting life happen to you instead of making things happen yourself.

It can be a pretty comfortable feeling until it’s not. Eventually, we get frustrated with floating because, while it feels pretty good, we have little to no control over where we end up.

When we “float” we are subject to the whims of other people and circumstances that we’ve chosen to not control. Floating is a pretty common feeling, and it is easy to stay there way longer than you should. But floating does not have to be a permanent condition.

YOU can take control of your life!

Taking control of your life is about making a conscious decision to be the driver, not the passenger in your life’s journey. It’s about being intentional with your choices and actions, big and small.

Here’s how to start taking control of your life.

Define What “Control” Means to You

First, you need to understand what taking control looks like for you personally. It’s absolutely not the same for everyone. When you get married, for instance, you are willingly and lovingly giving up at least some control to your partner.

So for you, is control about your career? Your health? Your relationships? Your finances? It’s likely a combination of these things and maybe more, but identifying the key areas that feel out of whack is the first step. Grab a notebook, iPad, or whatever, and jot down the parts of your life that feel most chaotic or uncontrolled. This isn’t about judgment; it’s about clarity.

Set Intentional Goals

Once you’ve identified the areas you want to work on, it’s time to set some goals. These shouldn’t be vague wishes. A good goal is SMART:

• Specific: What exactly do you want to achieve?

• Measurable: How will you track your progress?

• Achievable: Is this goal realistic for you right now?

• Relevant: Does this goal align with your values and what you want for your life?

• Time-bound: When do you want to achieve this by?

For example, instead of “I want to get healthy,” try “I will walk for 30 minutes three times a week for the next month.”

Embrace Small Actions

The idea of “taking control” can feel overwhelming. The key is to start small. A big change is just a series of small, consistent actions. If your goal is to save more money, start by packing your lunch once a week instead of buying it. If you want to learn a new skill, commit to 15 minutes of practice a day. These small wins build momentum and confidence, proving to yourself that you are capable of making a change.

Practice Self-Awareness

One of the most powerful tools for taking control is self-awareness. It’s about understanding your habits, triggers, and emotions. Why do you procrastinate? What makes you feel stressed? What are you truly passionate about? The more you understand yourself, the better you can navigate your life’s challenges. Journaling, meditation, or simply taking a few minutes each day to reflect can help you develop this awareness.

Take Responsibility (Without Blame)

This is a tough one, but it’s essential. Taking control means taking responsibility for your choices, ALL your choices, and their outcomes. This is not about blaming yourself for past mistakes. Instead, it’s about acknowledging your role in your current situation. For example, if you’re not happy with your job, instead of blaming your boss or the company, ask yourself, “What can I do to change this situation?” Maybe it’s updating your resume, networking, or taking a course to learn new skills. This shift in perspective is incredibly empowering.

Taking control of your life isn’t a one-time event; it’s a continuous practice. It’s about being proactive, not reactive. By defining your goals, starting with small actions, practicing self-awareness, and taking responsibility, you can begin to steer your life in the direction you want to go.

Things still will not always go your way, but YOU have the power to change directions as many times as are required to put yourself exactly where you want to be. Now that’s control!

So, where will you start?

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The Power of Perseverance: Turning Dreams into Reality

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Research shows that people frequently give up just moments before they would have achieved the success they had been working for. I remember a restaurant in Minneapolis that went out of business in 2014. They had been a business for a while, 99 years and 9 months to be exact. Just three months more and they would have been in business for 100 years. It would have been an amazing accomplishment.

I was so surprised by this news that I went to talk with the owners to find out why they couldn’t persevere for just a few more months. They actually had very sound and well-grounded business reasons for their decision. So many food trucks had popped up in their neighborhood that they just couldn’t make money anymore. They felt like they were throwing good money after bad.

While it was a logical decision, a part of me still felt like, screw the money, go for 100 years.

But they were smart people; they had persevered for over 99 years. Instead of making the emotional decision that I would have made, they made a good business decision. Lots of people are like me; we make emotional decisions, and often, those decisions prevent us from succeeding when success is literally right around the corner.

We, almost all of us at times, lack perseverance.

Perseverance is the quiet force that turns dreams into reality. It’s the grit that keeps us moving forward when obstacles loom large, the resolve that pushes us to rise after every fall, and the unwavering commitment to our goals despite setbacks. In a world that often celebrates instant success, perseverance reminds us that true achievement is a marathon, not a sprint. This blog post explores why perseverance matters, how it shapes success, and practical ways to cultivate it in our lives.

Why Perseverance Matters

At its core, perseverance is about staying the course when things get tough. Life is rarely a straight path to success—whether you’re chasing a career goal, building a business, or working on personal growth, challenges are inevitable. Perseverance is what separates those who succeed from those who give up. It’s the difference between a half-finished novel and a published book, or a failed startup and a thriving company.

Consider the story of Thomas Edison, who famously conducted thousands of experiments before perfecting the light bulb. Each failure was a lesson, not a defeat. Or think of J.K. Rowling, who faced countless rejections before Harry Potter became a global phenomenon. These icons didn’t possess superhuman talent or luck—they had perseverance. They kept going, refining their craft, learning from mistakes, and refusing to let setbacks define them.

Perseverance isn’t just about grand achievements. It’s also the daily grind: the student who studies through exhaustion, the athlete who trains despite injury, or the parent who balances work and family through sheer determination. It’s the ability to keep showing up, day after day, even when the results aren’t immediate.

The Science Behind Perseverance

Research backs up the power of perseverance. Psychologist Angela Duckworth, in her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, argues that grit—a combination of passion and perseverance—is a stronger predictor of success than talent or IQ. Her studies show that individuals who persist through challenges, maintain long-term goals, and stay committed despite adversity are more likely to achieve their ambitions.

Neuroscience also sheds light on why perseverance works. When we push through difficulties, our brains adapt, strengthening neural pathways associated with resilience and problem-solving. This process, known as neuroplasticity, means that perseverance not only helps us achieve specific goals but also makes us better equipped to handle future challenges. Each time we choose to keep going, we’re training our brains to thrive under pressure.

How Perseverance Shapes Success

1. It Builds Resilience: Perseverance teaches us to bounce back from failure. Each setback becomes a stepping stone, helping us develop the emotional strength to face future hurdles.

2. It Fosters Growth: Challenges force us to learn, adapt, and improve. Perseverance ensures we don’t shy away from the discomfort of growth, whether it’s mastering a new skill or overcoming personal limitations.

3. It Cultivates Confidence: Every small victory earned through persistence boosts self-belief. Over time, these wins compound, creating a sense of capability that fuels further effort.

4. It Inspires Others: Perseverance is contagious. When we push through adversity, we show others what’s possible, motivating them to pursue their own goals with tenacity.

Cultivating Perseverance in Your Life

While some people may seem naturally gritty, perseverance is a skill that can be developed. Here are practical ways to harness its power:

1. Set Clear Goals: Define what you’re working toward and why it matters. A strong sense of purpose fuels perseverance. Break big goals into smaller, manageable steps to maintain momentum.

2. Embrace Failure as Feedback: Reframe setbacks as opportunities to learn. Ask yourself, “What can I do differently next time?” instead of dwelling on what went wrong.

3. Build a Support System: Surround yourself with people who encourage and challenge you. A mentor, friend, or community can provide perspective and motivation when the going gets tough.

4. Practice Self-Discipline: Perseverance often requires doing what is necessary, even when you do not feel like it. Create routines, eliminate distractions, and focus on consistent effort over time.

5. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge progress, no matter how small. Recognizing milestones keeps you motivated and reminds you that every step forward counts.

6. Stay Flexible: Perseverance doesn’t mean stubbornly sticking to one path. Be willing to pivot, adapt, and find new ways to approach your goals when circumstances change.

7. Take Care of Yourself: Physical and mental well-being are crucial for sustained effort. Prioritize sleep, exercise, and stress management to maintain the energy needed to persevere.

Real-Life Examples of Perseverance

To illustrate the power of perseverance, let’s look at a well-known modern example:

Elon Musk: Before SpaceX and Tesla became household names, Musk faced near bankruptcy, technical failures, and intense criticism. His relentless pursuit of his vision—despite multiple rocket explosions and financial struggles—led to groundbreaking innovations in space travel and electric vehicles.

Everyday Heroes: Think of the single parent working two jobs to provide for their family, or the small business owner navigating economic uncertainty. These unsung stories of perseverance remind us that grit exists in all walks of life.

Overcoming the Temptation to Quit

There will be moments when giving up feels like the easier option. Doubt, fatigue, and frustration can erode even the strongest resolve. When this happens, remind yourself why you started. Revisit your goals, reflect on how far you’ve come, and focus on the next small step. Sometimes, perseverance means simply refusing to quit today.

It’s also worth noting that perseverance doesn’t mean blindly pushing forward at all costs. Knowing when to rest, reassess, or seek help is just as important as staying the course. Perseverance is about balance—knowing when to grind and when to pivot.

The Ripple Effect of Perseverance

Perseverance doesn’t just transform individual lives; it creates a ripple effect. When you persevere, you inspire others to do the same. Your determination can motivate a colleague to tackle a tough project, encourage a friend to pursue their passion, or show your children the value of hard work. In a world full of challenges, perseverance is a beacon of hope, proving that progress is possible even in the face of adversity.

Final Thoughts

The power of perseverance lies in its ability to transform obstacles into opportunities, failures into lessons, and dreams into reality. It’s not about being the smartest, the strongest, or the luckiest—it’s about showing up, day after day, with the courage to keep going. By setting clear goals, embracing setbacks, and nurturing resilience, we can all harness the strength of perseverance to achieve our greatest aspirations.

So, the next time you face a challenge, remember: perseverance isn’t about never falling—it’s about getting up one more time than you fall. That’s where the magic happens. Keep going. Keep going. Always keep going.

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Pushing Yourself: The Art of Breaking Your Own Limits

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I can’t think of anyone I’ve ever known who wasn’t at one time or another “stuck.” Like we’re running in place or hitting a wall we can’t climb. Those moments might feel like it, but they aren’t the end of the road—they’re the starting line for growth.

Before we begin, let’s make one important point—pushing yourself isn’t about reckless ambition or burning out; it’s about discovering what you’re truly capable of by stepping beyond your comfort zone. That’s a serious challenge, but it’s definitely worth it. Here’s how to do it thoughtfully.

Why Push Yourself?

Growth doesn’t happen in the cozy bubble of routine. When you push yourself—whether it’s tackling a new skill, chasing a bold goal, or facing a fear—you’re forcing your mind and body to adapt. Science backs this up: discomfort triggers neuroplasticity, your brain’s ability to form new connections, making you smarter and more resilient over time.

Beyond that, pushing yourself builds confidence. Every small victory—running that extra mile, finishing that project, or speaking up in a tough meeting—proves you’re stronger than you thought.

But it’s not just about personal wins. Pushing yourself sets an example for others. It shows your friends, family, or colleagues what’s possible when you refuse to settle. It’s a ripple effect: your effort inspires others to step up, too.

How to Push Yourself (Without Breaking)

The key to pushing yourself is balance—stretching your limits without snapping. Here’s how to do it effectively:

Set Clear, Bold Goals
Vague intentions like “I want to get better” won’t cut it. Define specific, challenging goals that excite and scare you a little. Want to run a marathon? Sign up for one. Aiming for a promotion? Map out the skills you need to earn it. A 2023 study from the Journal of Applied Psychology found that specific, difficult goals boost performance more than vague or easy ones. Write your goal down, break it into steps, and track your progress.

Embrace the Discomfort
Growth feels messy because oftentimes, it is. That knot in your stomach before a big presentation? The ache in your legs during a tough workout? That’s your body signaling you’re on the right track. Instead of avoiding discomfort, see it as evidence of progress. Techniques like deep breathing or visualization can help you stay calm when the pressure’s on.

Start Small, Build Momentum
You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Small, consistent pushes compound over time. If you’re learning a new language, commit to 10 minutes a day before jumping to hours-long study sessions. A 2024 meta-analysis on habit formation showed that small, repeatable actions are more likely to stick than drastic changes. Momentum builds confidence, and confidence fuels bigger leaps.

Find Your Why
Motivation fades when the going gets tough. Connect your effort to a deeper purpose. Are you pushing yourself to provide a better future for your family? To prove to yourself you can do it? To make a difference in your community? When your “why” is clear, it’s easier to keep going. Write it down and revisit it when you’re tempted to quit.

Surround Yourself with Pushers
The people around you matter. Seek out those who challenge you to be better—friends who drag you to the gym, mentors who call out your potential, or even online communities sharing your goals. A 2022 study in Social Psychology Quarterly found that social accountability increases commitment to personal goals by up to 30%. Ditch the naysayers; those nattering nabobs of negativity will only hold you back.

Celebrate the Wins, Learn from the Losses
Every step forward counts, even if it’s not perfect. Finished a tough project? Treat yourself to something small—a coffee, a movie, a moment of pride. Fall short? Don’t dwell; analyze what went wrong and adjust. Failure isn’t the opposite of success—it’s part of it. Always remember all progress is progress.

The Risks of Overdoing It

Pushing yourself doesn’t mean grinding until you collapse. Burnout is real, and it’s the fastest way to derail your progress. Listen to your body and mind. If you’re constantly exhausted, irritable, or losing motivation, scale back. Rest isn’t weakness; it’s strategy. A 2024 health study from Stanford showed that adequate recovery periods improve long-term performance by 25%. Balance the push with moments of recharge.

The Bigger Picture

Pushing yourself isn’t just about hitting goals; it’s about becoming someone who doesn’t shy away from challenges. It’s about building a life where you’re not just surviving but thriving, knowing you’ve got the grit to handle whatever comes next. Every time you push past your limits, you redefine what’s possible for yourself.

So, what’s one thing you can do today to push yourself? It doesn’t have to be huge—just one step outside your comfort zone. Sign up for that class. Have that tough conversation. Start that side gig. The version of you waiting on the other side of that effort is worth it.

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Developing Resilience and Grit

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I produce two videos a week that are published for subscribers on X. They focus on life and leadership skills. Very often, the comments I receive from subscribers say something along the lines of, “well, that’s easier said than done.”

I don’t disagree with that at all. In fact, almost everything worth doing is easier said than done. What often separates highly successful people from less successful people is that they do those things anyway.

Those highly successful people have figured out how NOT to quit when quitting would be so much easier than pushing forward. When tempted to quit, they reflect on why they started. When tempted to quit, they remember the days when they hoped to be as close to their goals as they are now. When tempted to quit, they summon the resilience required to grind their way closer to their end goal.

You may not have, or may not realize that you have, the same ability to develop the resilience and grit of highly successful people.

But you do!

Developing resilience and grit requires a combination of mindset shifts, intentional habits, and continuous self-improvement. Here are some ideas on how you can develop yourself into someone who will not be stopped.

1. Cultivate a Growth Mindset

A growth mindset, coined by Carol Dweck, is the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort and learning. To build resilience:

Embrace challenges as opportunities to grow.

Replace “I can’t do this” with “I can’t do this yet.”

View failure as feedback rather than a permanent setback.

2. Strengthen Emotional Control

Resilient people manage stress and setbacks effectively. To improve emotional regulation:

Practice mindfulness: Take time EVERY DAY to stop and think, to remind yourself why you set the goals you’ve set. Think positive possibilities!

Reframe negative thoughts: Instead of thinking “This is the worst,” try “This is tough, but I can handle it.”

Build self-awareness: Notice what triggers negative thoughts and develop positive coping strategies.

3. Develop a Strong Purpose & Intrinsic Motivation

Grit, as defined by Angela Duckworth, is the combination of passion and perseverance. To cultivate it:

Find a meaningful goal that excites you.

Align daily actions with long-term aspirations.

Remind yourself again why you’re pursuing your goals and what achieving them would mean for you and those close to you.

4. Build Mental Toughness Through Adversity

Resilience is strengthened by enduring and learning from tough experiences.

Do hard things intentionally: Push yourself outside your comfort zone.

Stay committed: Even when motivation fades, keep going.

Develop self-discipline: Set routines and stick to them, even when you don’t feel like it. You’ll soon discover that routines make success much easier.

5. Create a Support System

You don’t have to do it alone.

Surround yourself with supportive and resilient people.

Seek mentorship from those who have overcome adversity.

Lean on friends and family during difficult times.

6. Embrace Consistency Over Intensity

Small, daily habits build long-term resilience.

Stay committed to routines, even when progress seems slow. Remember, even a little progress is better than no progress.

Focus on long-term improvement rather than short-term wins.

7. Take Care of Your Physical & Mental Health

Resilience and grit are easier to develop when you are physically and mentally well.

Turn the phone off at least an hour before bed, and while you’re at it, turn the TV off too.

Exercise regularly to reduce stress.

Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish, it’s the only way you can have the resilience required to help others too.

8. Learn from Setbacks & Failures

Instead of dwelling on failure, analyze what went wrong and adjust.

Ask: What can I learn from this?

Adapt and try again with new strategies.

Celebrate small wins to keep momentum.

Final Thought:

Resilience and grit aren’t innate; they are skills you develop through consistent effort. By pushing through discomfort, learning from adversity, and staying committed to your goals, you’ll build the strength to handle anything life throws at you.

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How to Develop Perseverance

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There are many very talented people who fall short of reaching their full potential. They are even more people who set forth on a journey towards success who never reach their final goal or destination.

Many of those simply gave up before they reached their goal. Many of those would have reached that goal if they could have just pushed themselves a little further. But they lacked one of the most important attributes of successful people. That attribute is perseverance.

Perseverance is so critical because with every endeavor comes challenges and obstacles. On every journey towards success there will be times of fatigue and stress. There will always be instances where quitting seems like the practical and perhaps only alternative. But sometimes doing what’s practical is the least practical thing to do.

People with perseverance understand that achieving ultimate success often requires doing the unconventional and many times doing it when they would much prefer not to. If you’re not certain that you have the perseverance required to succeed I have good news for you. You can develop it.

Developing perseverance involves two things. You must cultivate a mindset of success and adopt certain practices. These things help you stay committed to your goals despite challenges and setbacks. Here are some of those practices to help you develop perseverance.

• Set Clear Goals. Define specific, achievable goals that align with your values and aspirations. Having clarity about what you want to achieve will provide you with a sense of direction and purpose. You are never too old to set a new goal and it’s never too late to adjust a goal if circumstances dictate it.

• Break Goals into Smaller Tasks. Divide your goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This makes them less overwhelming and allows you to focus on making progress one step at a time. Never forget, all progress, big or small moves you closer to your goal so never let small steps dissuade you from pushing forward.

• Maintain a Positive Attitude. Cultivate a positive mindset and believe in your ability to overcome obstacles. Instead of dwelling on setbacks, focus on what you can learn from them and how you can improve. Your attitude is always your choice and choosing a positive attitude might be one of the most important choices you’ll ever make.

• Develop Resilience. Understand that setbacks are a natural part of any journey. Learn to bounce back from adversity by building resilience and adapting to challenges.

• Stay Committed. Commit to your goals wholeheartedly and prioritize them in your daily life. Avoid distractions and stay focused on what truly matters to you. Share your goals with people who care enough for you to hold you accountable. None of us exactly likes accountability but we all do better when we have it in our life.

• Practice Self-Discipline. Develop self-discipline by setting routines and sticking to them, even when you don’t feel motivated. Consistent effort over time leads to progress and eventual success.

• Ask for Help. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Also, seek mentors or peers who can encourage you in tough times. Stay away from negative naysayers who are not on the path to success and would like to knock you off yours as well.

• Celebrate Progress. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Recognizing your progress can boost your confidence and motivation to keep moving forward. Remember, all progress is progress and therefore worth celebrating.

• Learn from Setbacks. Embrace setbacks as an opportunity for growth and learning. Analyze what went wrong, extract valuable lessons, and use them to improve your approach in the future. Some people would say setbacks are the same as failures. The difference is setbacks are mere interruptions. Setbacks don’t become failures until you choose to not pick yourself up and begin again.

• Stay Flexible. Be willing to adapt your strategies and approach as needed. Sometimes, the path to success may require adjustments and course corrections along the way. The most successfully people expect the unexpected. They know “surprises” are likely to happen and they actually plan accordingly.

• Visualize Success. Use visualization techniques to imagine yourself achieving your goals. Visualizing success can help you stay motivated and focused on your desired outcome. In all likelihood, if you can see it, you can do it.

• Practice Patience. Understand that success often takes time and perseverance. Stay patient and trust the process, even when results may not come as quickly as you’d like. Just make sure you’re not mistaking patience for procrastination. Patience allows you to gather information while resting up a bit. Procrastination stops your momentum and most often leads directly to true failure.

By focusing on these practices and making them a daily habit, you can change your mindset. You will gradually develop greater perseverance and resilience to overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

You will be unstoppable!

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If It’s Worth Doing Then It’s Worth Doing Poorly

Steve Keating 1 Comment

“Whatever is worth doing at all, is worth doing well.” Those words were penned by Philip Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield, in a letter to his son back in 1774.

The 4th Earl of Chesterfield knew was he was talking about. There is no purpose in doing anything worth doing unless you intend to do it well. 

At least eventually. 

Successful people are willing to do something poorly until they can do it well. Often very well. There was a kid who lived in North Carolina and loved basketball. He wanted to play for his high school team. He gave a mighty effort to make the team but he wasn’t good enough. The sophomore at Laney High School didn’t make the varsity team, instead he was sent to the Junior Varsity to develop more. 

He was told that his shooting was okay but his defense was mediocre. Plus, he wasn’t nearly tall enough at 15 years old to be guaranteed a spot on the team. He went home after hearing the news and cried alone in his bedroom.

Lots of people would have given up at that point. He could easily have been one of them. He could have decided to switch sports and give his second favorite sport, baseball, a try. But he persisted. He was willing to play basketball poorly until he could play it well. 

He worked and worked. Made bad shot after bad shot, until most of his shots weren’t that bad. He worked especially on his defense. He began to enjoy denying other people the opportunity to make a shot almost as much as he enjoyed making his own. Oh, and he grew a bunch too. 

But it was his willingness to play poorly (keep in mind “poorly” is a relative term) until he could play well (well is a relative term too) that made him into the player he turned out to be. He became a good enough player that he actually played for a bit in the National Basketball Association. He even contributed to his team winning some games. 

Less successful people often give up when they are right on the cusp of making most of their shots. They become demoralized with doing something poorly so they stop trying. They likely have a lot of “help” in becoming demoralized as the people around them continue to reinforce the notion they that aren’t very good. 

If you want great success then you must be willing to do something poorly until you improve enough to do it well. Few people succeed on their first attempt. 

But, here’s the caveat. You must be honest with yourself while attempting to move from a poor performance to a great performance. You must have some form of measurement in place to objectively evaluate whether or not you are making progress. Once you objectively make that determination you’ll know what to do. 

But whatever you do, don’t quit. Perhaps stop trying to make the basketball team and go out for the debate team. Trying something else is NOT quitting. It is redirecting your efforts to an area where your chances of success are greater. That’s called being strategic.

Oh by the way…that high school basketball player who couldn’t make the varsity…his name is Michael Jordan. You can Google him if you’re interested in knowing more about the guy many people consider the GOAT.