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How to Be More Realistic

Steve Keating 3 Comments

I wish I had a dollar for every person, who, when confronted with their negativity, claimed they weren’t being negative, they were just being realistic. Actually I wouldn’t mind having a buck or two for every time I said that too. The truth is when we’re constantly pointing out the negative in most every situation we’re probably being negative. That’s unhelpful to everyone involved in the situation, especially ourselves.

But the other side of the coin can be just as bad. Being overly optimistic can cause us to make too risky decisions. Things don’t just “work out best” because we believe they will. Thinks work out best for those who are best at working things out.

That requires a completely realistic view of the potential pluses and minuses of a given situation. Remaining realistic in all situations is a skill that can be developed. It typically involves developing a mindset and approach that aligns with the actual circumstances and probabilities of a situation. If you’re interested in truly becoming more realistic here are some ideas that can help.

• Objective Assessment: Evaluate situations objectively without letting emotions cloud your judgment. Consider facts and evidence rather than relying on personal feelings. This is where the old adage, “sleep on it” comes in handy. Things often look very different in the morning than they did the night before.

• Acceptance of Reality: Acknowledge and accept the current reality, even if it’s not ideal. Avoid wishful thinking or denying the truth to create a more accurate understanding of your circumstances.

• Critical Thinking: Engage in critical thinking by questioning assumptions and considering different perspectives. This helps in forming a more well-rounded and realistic view of situations. Don’t automatically assume that everything you think is true actually is.

• Goal Setting: Set achievable and realistic goals. Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and frustration. Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps.

• Learn from Experience: Reflect on past experiences and learn from them. Analyze both successes and failures to gain insights into what worked and what didn’t. Use this knowledge to make informed decisions.

• Consider Probabilities: When assessing future outcomes, consider the probabilities involved. Avoid overestimating positive outcomes or underestimating potential challenges.

• Balance Optimism with Realism: While optimism is valuable, it’s important to balance it with realism. Strive for a positive outlook without losing sight of the practical aspects of a situation.

• Seek Feedback: Gather feedback from others to gain different perspectives and insights. This external input can help you see things from a more realistic standpoint. And make sure that feedback you seek isn’t coming from only people who agree with you. You’ll often learn more from people who you disagree with than you will from people already aligned with your beliefs.

• Stay Informed: Stay informed about the facts and relevant information related to your areas of interest. Being well-informed contributes to a more realistic understanding of the world around you. Be careful with your sources of information too, this may come as a surprise but social media isn’t always the most accurate source for information.

• Flexibility: Be open to adjusting your plans and expectations based on new information or changing circumstances. Flexibility is key to adapting to reality. Remember, if you can’t change your mind, you can’t change anything.

Don’t forget, being realistic doesn’t mean being negative or pessimistic. It’s about approaching situations with a clear understanding of what is likely to happen and making decisions based on that understanding. Better decisions lead directly to a better life, and that’s about as real as it gets.

A Self Fulfilling Prophecy

Steve Keating 1 Comment

This is a story about a prosperous, or formerly prosperous, Hot Dog vendor in a major metropolitan city. He began his business with a single Hot Dog stand in the heart of downtown. He was a gregarious fellow who served excellent all beef Hot Dogs with all the fixins’. 

He could talk up a storm and always had something of interest to share with his customers. His customer base expanded over the first couple of years. His profits grew to the point he was able to pay for his son to attend one of the finest universities. 

The dad continued to do well with his Hot Dog business too. So well in fact that he added several additional stands throughout the city along with a handful of employees. All while his son was away at school. By any measure his business was booming. 

His son graduated with a degree in finance and triumphantly returned home. Upon learning of his father’s rapid growth he was shocked and concerned. He told his dad that he was very likely growing his business too fast. He added that the economy was on the cusp of a recession and he needed to downsize to “protect” his business. His business was sure to decline and he would be stuck with overhead and bills he wouldn’t be able to pay. 

The dad was surprised and disturbed by this news. He had no idea about the “mistakes” he had been making. All his bills were paid. He had no debt. His customers and employees were all happy and his profits were continuing to grow. But he had no formal education and his son had a newly minted degree. So he decided to follow his son’s advice. 

He immediately closed one of his stands and as his son had predicted sales began to decline. So he closed a second stand and once again, as his son had predicted sales and profits fell even further. 

Over the course of the year he laid off all of his employees and closed all but his original Hot Dog stand. Sales were once again at the level of years earlier before his son had gone off to school. 

The dad was amazed at how accurate his son’s “predictions” were and thanked him immensely for “saving” his business. 

Now this isn’t a true story but it very well good be. And if you’re not careful it could be your story too. 

As we continue in our turbulent times and approach a recession, or maybe already are in a recession, the “experts” will be out in force. The naysayers and doom makers will have ample “evidence” as to why you can’t succeed. Listen intently, use what you can from their “insights” but always always always decide for yourself. 

You know you better than anyone else. You know what you’re capable of. You know your business. You know your marketplace and your customers. The consultants and experts can add to your knowledge base but they can’t decide for you unless you allow them to. 

Never allow them to. Don’t become so “data driven” that you allow data to take over for your critical thinking skills. There was zero data to indicate any consumer demand for something called an iPod or a touch screen phone. But Steve Jobs went with his gut and moved forward anyway. It seems to have worked out reasonably well. There are still “experts” predicting the imminent death of the iPhone but I’ll bet Apple builds a few more next year anyway.

Good business plans, excellent leadership, sound values, integrity based principles, and undeterred perseverance will always win in the long run. Don’t let anyone who doesn’t truly know you and your business tell you otherwise. 

And never let their “predictions” become a self-fulfilling prophecy. 

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