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Surviving the Holiday Season

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Surviving? What the heck is that. No one survives the holiday season; everyone loves it. It is, after all, the most wonderful time of the year.

Except when it’s not.

And for a lot of people, it is absolutely not. In fact, the holiday season can be tough, especially if you’re dealing with stress, grief, loneliness, or other personal struggles. If that’s where you find yourself, here are a few ideas that may help.

1. Be Realistic About the Holidays

Remember, they don’t have to be perfect. Focus on what really matters to you, not what everyone else expects.

It’s okay to say no to things that feel overwhelming. You don’t have to do everything.

2. Make a Plan

Identify what makes the season tough for you (e.g., money, social pressure, memories).

Be honest about what you can handle. If you can’t host a party, don’t feel pressured to.

If money is a concern, plan ahead for gifts, meals, and travel. You can also find free or low-cost activities.

3. Take Care of Yourself

Make time for rest and relaxation. Take breaks when you need them. Quiet moments can help you recharge.

Eat as healthy as you can, move your body, and get enough sleep.

Limit alcohol if it is making you feel stressed or sad.

4. Stay Connected (or Not)

If you’re lonely, reach out to friends, family, or community groups. You can also volunteer—it’s a great way to feel connected.

If you need some alone time, that’s okay too. Plan activities that bring you peace, like reading, hiking, or watching your favorite movie. If I may, I’d suggest “It’s a Wonderful Life” because, well, because it is really a wonderful life, even if it is hard to see sometimes.

5. Manage Grief or Sadness

If you’re grieving or feeling sad, take your time. There’s no rush to “move on.”

Seek support from friends, family, or a counselor if you need it.

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay.

Don’t feel bad about feeling bad during the holidays. You are far from alone in wishing you could just skip December. Here are some of the ways others who struggle with this time of year have gotten through it.

Write down what you’re feeling or talk to a friend; letting your feelings out can be super therapeutic.

Create new traditions, such as lighting a candle for a loved one or starting a special ritual, can bring comfort.

Focus on what you can control; small joys like decorating your space, enjoying a favorite meal, or sending heartfelt cards can brighten your day.

Plan an escape, if necessary, and if possible, take a trip or focus on a project that takes your mind off the usual holiday stress.

Remember, it’s okay to not feel okay during the holidays. The key is to be kind with yourself and prioritize what helps you feel safe and supported. The holidays don’t have to be a total blast, but they can be survivable in a way that works for you.

Handling the Pressures of the Holiday Season

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It has been said, and sung, many times and many ways, that this, the Holiday Season, is the most wonderful time of the year. Unfortunately, for some it’s not so wonderful. They may associate the holidays with the loss of a loved one. They may see the holidays as an “obligation” that requires them to spend time doing things with people they would rather not be around. And they may think of the holidays as a time they “have to” spend money they just don’t have.

It’s good for us to realize that just because this is the most wonderful time of the year for most people, not everyone feels that way. Don’t try to force your joy onto someone who just isn’t into it. But even for those of us who truly love this time of year there are “pressures” that can build up that rob us of the joy of the season.

Handling those pressures can be challenging. They often involves a mix of social, financial, personal stressors and more. So here are a few strategies to help make sure The Grinch doesn’t get ahold of your holiday spirit.

• Set Realistic Expectations: Be realistic about what you can accomplish and what you expect from others. Understand that not everything will be perfect, and that’s okay.

• Budget Wisely: Create a budget for holiday spending and stick to it. Financial stress can be a significant pressure during the holidays, so planning ahead can help alleviate this.

• Plan Ahead: Start planning early to avoid last-minute stress. This includes gift shopping, meal preparation, and travel arrangements.

• Learn to Say No: It’s okay to decline invitations or additional responsibilities if you feel overwhelmed. Focus on what is most important to you and your well-being.

• Prioritize Self-Care: Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Get enough sleep, eat well, exercise, and make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

• Delegate Tasks: Don’t be afraid to ask for help or delegate responsibilities. You don’t have to do everything on your own.

• Focus on the Meaning of the Holidays: Remember the true meaning of the holidays. It’s not just about material gifts but also about spending quality time with loved ones and expressing gratitude.

• Create Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your time and energy. This may involve limiting the number of commitments or politely declining certain invitations.

• Celebrate in a Way that Works for You: Tailor your holiday celebrations to match your preferences and values. It’s okay to break from tradition if it means reducing stress.

• Connect with Others: Reach out to friends and family for support. Share your feelings and concerns, and don’t hesitate to ask for help when needed.

• Learn to Let Go: Understand that not everything will go as planned, and that’s okay. Learn to let go of perfectionism and focus on enjoying the moment.

• Create Meaningful Traditions: Establish traditions that bring you joy and fulfillment. These can be simple activities that align with your values.

• Seek Professional Help if Needed: If the holiday pressures become overwhelming, consider seeking the support of a mental health professional. They can provide guidance and coping strategies.

For many of us, but not all, the holiday season is about joy, connection, and celebration. By prioritizing your well-being and being intentional in your choices, you can navigate the pressures more effectively and perhaps bring a little joy to those who struggle this time of year too.