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How to Evaluate Yourself as a Leader: A Practical Guide to Self-Assessment

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Leadership is a never-ending journey of growth. It requires self-awareness, adaptability, and a commitment to continuous improvement. That’s why evaluating yourself as a leader is so crucial to your long-term success. Self-evaluation is a powerful way to identify your strengths, uncover areas for development, and ensure you’re effectively guiding your team toward success. In this post, we’ll look at practical steps to assess your leadership skills, reflect on your impact, and set a course for growth.

Why Self-Evaluation Matters for Leaders

Self-evaluation is more than just a personal check-in; it’s a proactive step to align your actions with your values and goals. By regularly assessing your leadership, you can:

• Gain Clarity: Understand how your behaviors and decisions impact your team.

• Build Trust: Demonstrate accountability by recognizing and addressing your weaknesses.

• Drive Growth: Identify opportunities to enhance your skills and leadership style.

• Inspire Others: Model self-reflection, encouraging your team to grow alongside you.

Let’s dive into a step-by-step guide to evaluating yourself as a leader.

Step 1: Define Your Leadership Values and Goals

Before you can evaluate your performance, you need a clear benchmark. Start by reflecting on your core leadership values and goals:

• What kind of leader do you want to be? Are you aiming to be collaborative, decisive, empathetic, or innovative? Perhaps all of the above? Write down 3-5 core values that define your leadership philosophy.

• What are your goals? Consider both short-term objectives (e.g., improving team communication) and long-term aspirations (e.g., fostering a culture of innovation).

• How do these align with your organization’s mission? Ensure your personal leadership goals support the broader vision of your team or company.

Action Tip: Create a “Leadership Mission Statement” that encapsulates your values and goals. For example: “I strive to lead with empathy and clarity, empowering my team to achieve excellence while fostering a culture of trust and collaboration.” Post your mission statement where others can see it. That will help create accountability and build a bridge to step 2.

Step 2: Seek Feedback from Others

Self-evaluation is incomplete without external perspectives. Others can provide insights into how your leadership is perceived and its impact on the team. Here’s how to gather meaningful feedback:

• Ask for 360-degree feedback: Collect input from peers, direct reports, and supervisors. Use anonymous surveys or one-on-one conversations to encourage honesty.

• Ask specific questions: Instead of vague prompts like “How am I doing?”, ask targeted questions such as:

• “What’s one thing I do well as a leader?”

• “What’s one area where I could improve my support for the team?”

• Listen without defensiveness: Approach feedback with an open mind, focusing on growth rather than justification.

Action Tip: Use a tool like Google Forms or a platform like SurveyMonkey to create a simple, anonymous feedback survey. Schedule follow-up discussions with your team to clarify feedback and show your commitment to acting on it.

Step 3: Assess Your Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

I’m really close to saying that EQ is even more important for a leader than IQ. That’s because emotional intelligence is a cornerstone of effective leadership. It involves self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and relationship management. To evaluate your EQ:

• Self-Awareness: Reflect on how well you understand your emotions and their impact on your decisions. Do you recognize when stress or frustration affects your leadership?

• Self-Regulation: Consider how you handle challenges. Do you stay calm under pressure, or do you react impulsively?

• Empathy: Ask yourself how well you understand and respond to your team’s needs. Do you actively listen and show genuine care for their perspectives?

• Relationship Management: Evaluate your ability to build trust, resolve conflicts, and inspire collaboration.

Action Tip: Take an online EQ assessment, such as the Emotional Intelligence Appraisal by TalentSmart, or journal about a recent leadership challenge to analyze how your emotions influenced your actions.

Step 4: Review Your Decision-Making and Results

Leadership is often judged by outcomes. Evaluate your decision-making process and the results of your leadership:

• Decision-Making Process: Are your decisions informed, inclusive, and aligned with your values? Do you seek different perspectives before acting?

• Impact on Team Performance: Look at measurable outcomes, such as team productivity, morale, or project success. Have your actions led to positive results?

• Adaptability: Reflect on how you handle change or uncertainty. Do you pivot effectively when faced with challenges?

Action Tip: Review a recent project or initiative you led. Write down what went well, what didn’t, and one decision you would approach differently next time. Use this to identify patterns in your leadership style.

Step 5: Evaluate Your Communication Skills

Effective communication is critical for leadership success. Assess how well you convey ideas, listen, and encourage open dialogue.

• Clarity: Do you articulate goals and expectations clearly? Are your instructions easy to understand?

• Active Listening: Do you genuinely listen to your team’s ideas and concerns, or do you dominate conversations?

• Feedback Delivery: Are you constructive and specific when providing feedback? Do you balance praise with areas for improvement?

Action Tip: Record a team meeting (with permission) or ask a trusted colleague to observe your communication style. Note areas where you excel or could improve, such as body language or tone.

Step 6: Reflect on Your Team’s Growth and Engagement

A leader’s success is tied to their team’s growth and motivation. Evaluate how you are fostering a positive and productive environment:

• Team Development: Are you providing opportunities for your team to learn and grow? Do you delegate effectively to build their skills?

• Engagement: Are team members motivated and committed? Do they feel valued and empowered?

• Culture: What kind of culture are you creating? Is it inclusive, collaborative, and aligned with your values?

Action Tip: Conduct a “stay interview” with team members to understand what keeps them engaged and what could improve their experience. Use their insights to assess your impact as a leader.

Step 7: Set Goals for Improvement

Self-evaluation is only effective if it leads to action. Based on your reflections and feedback, identify 1-3 areas for improvement and create a plan:

• Be Specific: Instead of “I’ll be a better communicator,” aim for “I’ll practice active listening by summarizing team members’ points in meetings.”

• Set Measurable Goals: For example, “I will implement monthly one-on-one check-ins with my team to improve engagement.”

• Seek Resources: Consider leadership training, books (e.g., The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni), or a mentor to support your growth.

Action Tip: Create a 30-60-90-day plan outlining specific actions you will take to improve. Review your progress regularly to stay accountable.

Step 8: Make Self-Evaluation a Habit

Leadership evaluation isn’t a one-time task—it’s an ongoing practice. Build self-reflection into your routine:

• Daily Reflection: Spend 5 minutes at the end of each day journaling about a leadership moment—what went well and what could be better.

• Monthly Check-Ins: Revisit your leadership mission statement and goals to ensure you’re on track.

• Annual Deep Dive: Conduct a comprehensive self-assessment, including 360-degree feedback, to measure your growth over time.

Action Tip: Use a journal or app like Evernote to track your reflections and progress. Set calendar reminders for monthly and annual check-ins.

Final Thoughts

Evaluating yourself as a leader requires honesty, humility, and a commitment to growth. By defining your values, seeking feedback, assessing your emotional intelligence, and reflecting on your impact, you can gain a clear picture of your strengths and areas for improvement.

The goal isn’t perfection but progress—each step you take toward becoming a better leader inspires your team and drives meaningful results. As you become a more effective leader, your team becomes more effective as well. And never forget, not even for a moment, that your leadership is not about you; it’s ALL about the people you lead.

So, take the first step today: carve out 15 minutes to reflect on one aspect of your leadership, such as how you handled a recent challenge. Then, commit to one small action to improve. Your team—and your future self—will thank you for it.

How to Know What You Believe In

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One of the questions that Charlie Kirk would frequently ask students on college campuses was, “What do you believe in?”

The question most often came early in a debate with a student who had just told Charlie that everything he, Charlie, believed in was wrong. Terribly wrong as a matter of fact.

So then Charlie would ask the student what they believed in.

In virtually every case, the student would stammer, stutter, and eventually admit they didn’t really know what they believed in. After a bit more conversation, they figured out that most of what they had “heard” about Charlie was nearly totally wrong.

Charlie pursued that line of questioning because he knew if the students didn’t know specifically what they believed in, they were susceptible to believing anything. He also knew it was very common for someone of college age to not have put much thought into what they believe. But guess what? An incredibly large percentage of people of ALL ages have never put much thought into what they truly believe and they too are susceptible to believing anything.

That’s why understanding what you truly believe in is such a powerful step toward living a purposeful and authentic life. Your beliefs shape your decisions, relationships, and how you navigate the world. But in a chaotic world filled with opinions, expectations, and distractions, pinpointing your core beliefs can feel overwhelming.

Especially when so much of what we read and see online is created in China, North Korea, or some other, less-than-friendly country. Throw in the fact that it was created for the express purpose of spreading confusion and hate, and it becomes almost impossible to know what to believe. Unless you are well-grounded by what you’re certain you truly believe in.

This post offers practical steps to help you uncover what you believe in, so you can live with clarity and conviction. So, let’s get into it.

Reflect on Your Experiences

Your life experiences are a window into your beliefs. Take time to reflect on moments that shaped you—both the highs and the lows. Ask yourself:

• What moments in my life felt deeply meaningful or fulfilling? Why?

• When did I feel proud of my actions or choices?

• What situations made me feel uncomfortable or conflicted?

For example, if you felt fulfilled volunteering at a community event, you might value service or connection. If you felt uneasy when someone was treated unfairly, fairness or justice might be a core belief. Write down these moments and look for patterns.

Identify What Sparks Strong Emotions

Your emotions are clues to your beliefs. Pay attention to what makes you angry, inspired, or deeply moved. For instance:

• If you’re outraged by dishonesty in the workplace, you might value integrity.

• If you’re inspired by stories of people overcoming adversity, resilience, or courage could be central to your belief system.

Keep a journal for a week and note situations that evoke strong feelings. Over time, you’ll see recurring themes that point to your core values.

Question the “Shoulds” in Your Life

Many of us adopt beliefs from family, culture, or society without questioning them. To uncover what you believe, challenge the “shoulds” in your life. Ask:

• Why do I feel that I should pursue a certain career, lifestyle, or goal?

• Do these expectations align with who I am, or are they someone else’s values?

For example, if you feel pressure to climb the corporate ladder but find joy in creative pursuits, your belief in personal fulfillment might outweigh societal expectations of success. Be honest about what feels authentic to you. But also be practical; you do need to earn a living, so you need to find the balance between what you want to do and what you need to do. Knowing what you truly believe in helps you find that balance.

Explore Your Role Models

Think about people you admire. What qualities draw you to them? Their courage, kindness, innovation, or determination? These qualities often reflect the beliefs you hold dear. Write down:

• Who inspires me, and why?

• What specific actions or values do they embody that resonate with me?

If you admire someone who speaks out against injustice, you might believe in standing up for what’s right. Use these insights to clarify your own principles.

Test Your Beliefs in Action

Beliefs solidify when you act on them. Experiment by making choices aligned with the values you are exploring. For example:

• If you think you value patriotism, try getting involved in serving your fellow citizens. Forget about the left, right, Democrat or Republican stuff. Serve people first because it’s people who make your country great.

• If you suspect creativity is a core belief, dedicate time to a creative project.

Notice how these actions make you feel. Do they bring a sense of purpose or alignment? If not, adjust and try something else. Action helps you refine what you truly believe.

Ask Big Questions

To dig deeper, confront the big questions about life and purpose. Set aside quiet time to reflect on:

• What do I think is the purpose of life?

• What kind of person do I want to be remembered as?

• If I had one year left to live, what would I prioritize?

These questions can feel daunting, but they cut through superficial distractions and reveal what matters most to you. Write down your answers without overthinking, and revisit them later to see what stands out.

Seek Feedback from Trusted People

Sometimes, others see us more clearly than we see ourselves. Ask close friends, family, or mentors:

• What values do you see me living by?

• When have you seen me at my best?

Their answers can highlight beliefs you might not recognize in yourself. For example, a friend might point out that you’re always the first to help others, revealing a belief in kindness and community.

Embrace Change and Growth

Your beliefs aren’t set in stone. As you grow, your values may evolve. What you believed in your 20s might shift in your 30s or beyond. Stay open to reassessing your beliefs as you gain new experiences. Regularly check in with yourself:

• Do my current actions align with my beliefs? If not, why not?

• Have any of my values changed over time?

This flexibility ensures your beliefs remain authentic to who you are now, not who you once were.

Final Thoughts

Knowing what you truly believe in is a journey, not a destination. It requires curiosity, honesty, and a willingness to explore your inner world. By reflecting on your experiences, emotions, and inspirations, you can uncover the values that guide you. Test those values through action, question inherited beliefs, especially question assumed beliefs, and stay open to growth. When you live in alignment with your core beliefs, you will find greater clarity, confidence, and purpose in everything you do.

Start small today: pick one of the steps above and spend 10 minutes reflecting. What do you discover about what you believe in? Jotting down your thoughts in a journal is a great way to keep them close by. Your beliefs are your compass—let them guide you toward a life that feels true to you.

How to Determine Your Core Values

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Our last post focused on setting and achieving real goals. But we didn’t invest a lot of time in an essential step in the goal setting process. That step is determining your core values.

Your core values are the guiding principles that shape your decisions, actions, and ultimately, your life. They reflect what truly matters to you—your priorities, beliefs, and what you stand for. But how do you find these values, especially when life’s noise can make it hard to hear your inner voice? This post will guide you through a practical, introspective process to determine your core values and start living in alignment with them.

Why Core Values Matter

Core values act like a compass. They help you navigate tough choices, set boundaries, and pursue goals that feel meaningful. Without clarity on your values, you might feel lost, unfulfilled, or pulled in directions that don’t resonate with who you are. Knowing your core values empowers you to live YOUR LIFE and make decisions with confidence.

Step-by-Step Process to Identify Your Core Values

Here’s a clear, actionable approach to uncovering your core values. Grab a notebook, set aside some quiet time, likely lots of quiet time. Determining your core values is serious business, give it the time it deserves. Now, let’s dive in.

1. Reflect on Peak Experiences

Think about moments in your life when you felt truly alive, fulfilled, or proud. These could be personal achievements, meaningful relationships, or even small, quiet moments that left a lasting impact.

• Questions to ask:

• What was happening during those moments?

• Why did they feel so significant?

• What about these experiences made you feel aligned or “at home”?

Example: If you felt most alive while volunteering, values like service, compassion, or community might be at play.

Write down 3-5 peak experiences and jot down the feelings or themes that stand out.

2. Identify Moments of Discomfort or Conflict

Sometimes, your values become clear when they’re tested. Think about times when you felt frustrated, angry, or out of sorts—moments when something just didn’t sit right.

• Questions to ask:

• What was happening that felt “off”?

• What boundary or belief felt violated?

• What would have made the situation feel right?

Imagine you felt uneasy when someone pressured you to compromise your principles at work. What are your core values? Integrity, honesty, or something else?

List a few situations that bothered you and note the underlying issues.

3. Explore Your Role Models

Think about people you admire—family, friends, public figures, or even fictional characters. What draws you to them?

• What qualities or behaviors do they embody?

• Why do these traits resonate with you?

• How do their actions reflect what you want to stand for?

Example: If you admire someone’s courage to speak their truth, values like authenticity or bravery might be important to you. Write down 2-3 role models and the qualities you respect in them.

4. Brainstorm a Values List

Now, start creating a list of potential values. Here’s a short sample of common ones: honesty, freedom, growth, family, creativity, justice, adventure, security, kindness, respect, achievement, balance.

Look at your notes from steps 1-3. What words or themes keep popping up?

Don’t overthink it—write down any value that feels relevant, even if it’s vague.

Aim for a list of 10-20 values to start. You’ll narrow it down later.

5. Narrow Down to Your Top 3-5 Values

A long list of values can feel overwhelming, so let’s refine it. Your core values are the ones you’d fight for—the non-negotiables that define you.

Group similar values: For example, if you wrote “honesty,” “truth,” and “integrity,” combine them into one.

Prioritize: Ask yourself, “If I could only choose one value to live by, what would it be?” Then the next, and so on.

Test them: Imagine a scenario where you have to choose between two values (e.g., security vs. adventure). Which one feels more “you”?

Aim for 3-5 core values that feel deeply true. For each, write a sentence explaining what it means to you.

Example:

• Value: Growth

• Meaning: I’m all about learning, growing, and stepping out of my comfort zone to become the best version of myself.

6. Check in with Your Life

Take a look at your current life—your relationships, career, hobbies, and daily choices. Do they match your chosen values? If not, where’s the disconnect?

• Questions to ask:

• Where do I feel most connected to these values?

• Where am I compromising them?

• What small changes could bring me closer to living these values fully?

This step isn’t about judgment—it’s about clarity. When things don’t align, it often means there are areas where you can make intentional changes.

Putting Your Values into Action

Once you’ve figured out your core values, they become a guide for making decisions and growing. Here are a few ways to live them out:

• Set goals aligned with your values: If “connection” is a value, make sure to spend quality time with loved ones or build new relationships.

• Use them to say “no”: If something—like a job or commitment—goes against your values, give yourself permission to say no.

• Check in regularly: Revisit this process every year or during big changes to stay true to yourself.

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

• Choosing “should” values: Don’t pick values because society, family, or culture expects them. Choose what feels authentic to you.

• Being too vague: If a value like “happiness” feels too broad, dig deeper. What kind of happiness? Joy through creativity? Peace through balance?

• Ignoring trade-offs: Living by your values can mean tough choices, like leaving a comfortable but unfulfilling job. Be ready to prioritize what matters most.

Final Thoughts

Determining your core values is a personal journey, but it’s one of the most rewarding steps you can take toward a meaningful life. By reflecting on your experiences, narrowing down what truly matters, and aligning your choices with those truths, you’ll build a foundation for authenticity and purpose.

Remember, take your time with this process. The key is to start, trust yourself, and let your inner compass guide you.

What’s one value you think might be at your core? Share in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts!

All About Goals

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If you’re a golf fan, then odds are you’ve watched golf on TV or maybe even attended a tournament or two. Just imagine watching your favorite player bombing a drive down the middle of the fairway and then hitting their approach shot within a foot of—a foot of nothing because there was no hole on the green. Nothing to shoot for, no way to finish the hole, no point in playing at all.

That seems foolish, doesn’t it? Putting all that work in to master hitting a golf ball long and straight. Then practicing endlessly to control the ball so you can stop it on the putting surface. And then…and then there is no then.

It’s like baseball with the base. Basketball without the basket. Football without the ball. And it’s like life without goals.

Now imagine waking up each day with a clear sense of purpose, knowing exactly what you’re working toward in your career, relationships, health, and personal growth. How cool would that be? That’s the magic of setting goals—not just in one area, but across every area of your life.

Goals are your roadmap, guiding you through the chaos of daily demands and helping you build a life that’s balanced, fulfilling, and aligned with your core values. It’s just a whole lot easier to keep going when things get tough when you know exactly where it is that you’re going to end up.

Having true goals is absolutely transformative. They transform an ordinary life into an extraordinary one. Here’s how.

1. Goals Give You Clarity and Direction

Life can feel like a mishmash of responsibilities, distractions, unexpected and sometimes, unending challenges. Without goals, it’s easy to drift aimlessly, reacting to whatever comes your way. Setting goals in areas like career, health, relationships, finances, and personal development gives you a North Star to follow. They help you define what success looks like for you—whether it’s landing a dream job, running a marathon, or deepening your connection with loved ones.

For example, a career goal might be to earn a promotion within two years, while a personal goal could be to read one book a month for self-growth. These targets provide clarity, so you’re not just “going through the motions” but actively steering your life toward meaningful outcomes.

It is amazing how many people can’t easily define what success means to them, that’s the telltale sign they lack true goals.

2. They Create Balance Across Your Life

Focusing on just one area—like pouring all your energy into work—can leave other parts of your life neglected, leading to burnout, strained relationships, or declining health. Goals in multiple areas encourage balance. By setting intentions for physical fitness (e.g., exercising three times a week), mental well-being (e.g., practicing mindfulness daily), and relationships (e.g., scheduling weekly family time), you ensure that no part of your life is left behind.

Think of your life like a wheel, with spokes representing health, career, relationships, spirituality, and more. If one spoke is missing or weak, the wheel wobbles. Setting clear goals keeps the wheel turning smoothly, helping you live a well-rounded life.

3. Goals Fuel Motivation and Progress

There’s something super motivating about working towards something you’re passionate about. Goals give you a reason to get out of bed, even on tough days. They break down big dreams into manageable steps, making progress feel achievable. For instance, if your financial goal is to save $10,000 for a home down payment, you can create smaller milestones, like saving $500 a month. Each step forward builds momentum and a sense of accomplishment.

This applies to every area of life. A health goal to lose 20 pounds becomes less daunting when you focus on eating more vegetables daily. A relationship goal to reconnect with friends feels doable when you commit to one coffee date a month. These small wins keep you motivated and remind you that progress is possible.

4. They Help You Prioritize and Manage Time

Time is limited, and without clear goals, it’s easy to waste it on distractions or obligations that do nothing for you. When you have goals across different areas, you’re forced to prioritize. You start saying “no” to things that don’t align with your vision and “yes” to what moves you closer to your goals.

For example, if you’re aiming to improve your mental health by journaling nightly, you might cut back on mindless scrolling. If your career goal is to learn a new skill, you’ll carve out time for online courses instead of overcommitting to social events. Goals act like a filter, helping you allocate your time and efforts wisely.

5. Goals Foster Resilience and Growth

Life isn’t a straight path—setbacks, failures, and obstacles are inevitable. Goals give you something to hold onto during tough times. They remind you why you’re pushing forward, whether it’s to build a stronger body, a thriving business, or a closer family. Even when you hit a snag, working towards a goal is like a superpower that teaches you resilience, problem-solving, and adaptability.

Plus, pursuing goals in diverse areas encourages personal growth. A spiritual goal to practice gratitude might deepen your perspective, while a creative goal to write a book could unlock hidden talents. Each goal is like a stepping stone, helping you grow into a more awesome, capable version of yourself!

6. They Align Your Life with Your Values

At their core, goals are about living intentionally. When you set them thoughtfully across all areas—career, health, relationships, finances, personal growth, and beyond—they reflect what matters most to you. This alignment gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment that’s hard to find otherwise.

For instance, if family is a core value, a goal to have weekly game nights ensures you’re investing in those bonds. If independence drives you, a financial goal to pay off debt puts you on that path.

Without goals, it’s easy to drift aimlessly, swayed by external pressures or fleeting whims. Goals anchor you to your values, ensuring your life reflects who you are and what you stand for.

How to Start Setting Goals in All Areas

Ready to unlock the full potential of goal-setting? Here’s a super easy way to do it:

1.Reflect on Key Areas: Consider categories like health, career, relationships, finances, personal growth, spirituality, and hobbies. Ask yourself, “What would make this area of my life feel more fulfilling?”

2. Set SMART Goals: Make your goals Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Instead of “getting fit,” aim for “walking 30 minutes five days a week for three months.”

3. Start Small: Don’t overwhelm yourself with dozens of goals. Pick one or two per area to focus on, ensuring they’re realistic and meaningful.

4. Track and Adjust: Review your progress regularly—weekly or monthly—and tweak your goals as needed. Life changes, and your goals should evolve with it.

5. Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge every milestone, no matter how small. Rewarding yourself reinforces motivation and makes the journey enjoyable.

The Ripple Effect of True Goals

When you set goals in all areas of life, they start to work together like a well-oiled machine! A health goal to sleep better boosts your energy for work. A career goal to network more introduces you to friends who enrich your social life. A personal growth goal to practice patience strengthens your relationships. This interconnectedness creates a positive ripple effect, where progress in one area lifts the others too.

Goals aren’t only about reaching objectives; they’re about becoming the best version of yourself. They give you a roadmap to live a purposeful, balanced, and joyful life. So begin today to dream big and plan out what you want in every aspect of your life. Your future self will most definitely thank you!

Keeping the Main Thing the Main Thing

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I once had the opportunity to hear Steve Jobs speak. He was talking about focus and said, “When fishermen cannot go out to sea, they repair their nets.” He also said, “In simple terms, even when you can’t do your main thing, always do something that relates to your main thing.”

I thought, and still think, that it is amazing advice. But through the years I’ve discovered one major problem with that. The problem is most people, and I do mean most, have almost no conscious idea what their main thing is.

That means, of course, that they have no way of knowing if what they are doing at any given time relates to their main thing. It’s that lack of focus on their main thing that prevents them from reaching their full potential and living their best life possible.

So how can someone determine their main thing? Well, it requires knowing the purpose or priority that drives you. Discovering that purpose most often involves a good bit of self-reflection and focused attention to your natural inclinations. Here are some things to pay attention to as you seek your own “main thing.”

Alignment with Core Values: Your “main thing” usually aligns closely with your deepest values. If you value creativity, your main thing might involve artistic expression. For those who value service, it could be about helping others.

What Energizes You: When you’re doing your main thing, you tend to feel a unique kind of energy or flow, even if the work is hard. It might feel like time flies by or that you’re at your most effective.

Recurring Interest or Skill: Sometimes, a consistent theme in your interests, talents, or natural skills is a clue. If you find yourself drawn to similar projects, activities, or areas of study over and over, that could be pointing you toward your main thing.

What You Prioritize: Even if life demands a lot from you, notice what you naturally protect in your schedule. If there’s something you prioritize despite being busy or tired, it likely matters deeply.

Internal Reward: Your main thing tends to feel rewarding internally rather than because of external validation or rewards. You may not need a lot of external encouragement to keep at it.

Feedback from Others: Sometimes, those close to you can see patterns that you don’t. They may recognize your main thing in ways you haven’t yet, especially if they see how it impacts you or how often it comes up in your life.

Long-Term Fulfillment: If you think about the future, does it feel satisfying to picture yourself doing this for a long time? Your main thing typically offers fulfillment over the years rather than moments.

People who focus on their main thing are more successful. That’s good, but what’s even better is that they are happier, more confident, more fulfilled, and less stressed out.

But there can be no focus on the main thing until you know the main thing. Put some effort into determining your main thing, and it will pay great dividends. Not only for you but for the people in your life.

How to Always Do the Next Right Thing

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I’ve been truly blessed with incredibly wise mentors throughout my life. These are people who cared enough about me to be honest. They were skilled enough communicators to deliver challenging coaching to me in a way I could accept it. They were smart enough to not ever attempt to make a decision for me. They provided all the pluses and minuses of a given decision and then stepped back to allow me to decide.

One of the best pieces of advice came from perhaps the best salesperson who ever lived. I mean that literally. His name was Tom. He sold billions of dollars’ worth of his product throughout his career to always delighted clients. I was at a point in my own career where I was feeling a little “stuck.” I wasn’t sure what I should do, so I went to Tom and asked him what he thought.

He said he couldn’t tell me specifically what to do, but in his opinion, I should do the next right thing. I had received some “interesting” coaching from Tom in the past, but this particular information seemed more “interesting” than ever. I replied to Tom that if I knew what the next right thing to do was, I wouldn’t be stuck. I also wouldn’t be asking him for advice.

He was undaunted. He said that somewhere within me I knew what the next right thing was. He said if I didn’t know, I had all the skills and knowledge needed to figure it out on my own. It was frustrating advice, but as he helped me work through my thought process, it became clear that as usual, he was correct.

He simply reminded me what I knew and where I wanted to go in life. He reviewed my Core Values with me and assured me that “the next right thing” would be found in those values and in my goals.

Determining the next right thing to do is a continual process that involves a combination of self-awareness, goal-setting, and review, prioritization, and reflection. Here’s a step-by-step guide that Tom shared with me to help me navigate this process.

1. Define or Review Your Goals

• Set Specific Goals: Break down your overarching goal into smaller, manageable tasks.

• Time-bound: Assign deadlines to each task to create a sense of urgency and structure.

2. Assess Your Current Situation

• Self-Assessment: Evaluate where you currently stand in relation to your goals.

• Identify Obstacles: Recognize any challenges or barriers that may impede your progress.

3. Prioritize Tasks

• Urgency vs. Importance: Use tools like the Eisenhower Matrix to categorize tasks based on their urgency and importance.

• High-Impact Activities: Focus on tasks that will have the most significant impact on your progress.

4. Break Down Tasks

• Small Steps: Divide larger tasks into smaller, more manageable steps.

• Actionable Items: Ensure each step is actionable and can be accomplished in a reasonable timeframe.

5. Stay Organized

• Planning Tools: Use planners, calendars, or project management tools to keep track of your tasks and deadlines.

• Daily Review: Review your plan daily to stay on track and make adjustments as needed.

6. Maintain Flexibility

• Adaptability: Be willing to adjust your plans as new information or opportunities arise.

• Continuous Learning: Be open to learning and improving your approach based on feedback and results.

7. Seek Feedback

• Mentorship: Seek advice from mentors or peers who’ve had experience in your area of focus.

• Reflect: Regularly reflect on your progress and identify areas for improvement.

8. Take Action

• Commitment: Commit to taking action, even if it’s imperfect. The act of moving forward is crucial.

• Consistency: Regular, consistent action, even if small, leads to progress over time.

9. Evaluate and Reflect

• Review Progress: Periodically review what you’ve accomplished.

• Learn from Mistakes: Identify what didn’t work and learn from those experiences to refine your approach.

10. Stay Motivated

• Celebrate Milestones: Acknowledge and celebrate small wins to stay motivated.

• Positive Mindset: Maintain a positive attitude and focus on the progress you’ve made, not just what’s left to do.

Practical Example

Let’s say your goal is to write a book. Here’s how you can apply the steps:

1. Define Clear Goals: Set a goal to write a 300-page book within a year.

2. Assess Your Current Situation: Determine your writing speed and available time.

3. Prioritize Tasks: Outline the book’s chapters and prioritize writing the most critical sections first.

4. Break Down Tasks: Break down writing each chapter into smaller tasks, such as drafting an outline, writing 5 pages per day, and revising.

5. Stay Organized: Use a calendar to schedule writing sessions and deadlines for each chapter.

6. Maintain Flexibility: If you encounter writer’s block, be willing to adjust your schedule or change your writing environment.

7. Seek Feedback: Share drafts with peers or mentors for constructive feedback.

8. Take Action: Write daily, even if it’s just a few sentences.

9. Evaluate and Reflect: Review your progress weekly and adjust your plan if necessary.

10. Stay Motivated: Celebrate finishing each chapter and keep a positive outlook on your progress.

You absolutely know what your own “next right thing” is. By following these steps, you can ensure that you bring it to the surface and use it to make progress towards your goals. Remember, ALL progress is progress, even baby steps.

Living According to Your Core Values

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Many people struggle with setting meaningful goals for their life. Many of those same people find it difficult to make decisions, especially big, life altering decisions. A good number of those same people have relationship issues throughout their lives. They can’t quite seem to find their “match.”

All of those challenges have one underlying cause. That cause is Core Values.

Just to be clear, it is not a lack of Core Values. It is a lack of understanding exactly what their Core Values are. I believe everyone has Core Values, those values that are life defining. Values that are worth fighting for. Even values that are worth dying for.

But through the years I’ve come to realize that most people, perhaps even the vast majority of people, have invested scant time thinking and reflecting on what their Core Values actually are. Those Core Values are buried deep within them but not so deep that they don’t impact their thinking. Their ever present Core Values inform their thinking but they do so subconsciously.

When people know and understand their Core Values they bring them to the surface. Once surfaced their Core Values help them make better and bigger decisions. They inform them as to what goals truly matter long term. Their Core Values help them find and keep a person who will be their partner for the rest of their lives.

Core Values are a very big deal. They are an even bigger deal once you’ve determined your Core Values and decide to consciously live your life accordingly.

Determining your Core Values involves reflecting on what matters most to you in life. Start by considering experiences, beliefs, and principles that have consistently guided your decisions and actions. Ask yourself probing questions about what brings you fulfillment, what you stand for, and what you couldn’t live without. Write down a list of potential values, then narrow it down to the ones that resonate with you the most deeply. Your Core Values should reflect your authentic self and serve as a compass for making choices aligned with your true priorities.

Core Values vary from person to person, but some common examples include:

1. Integrity: Being honest, trustworthy, and acting with moral principles.

2. Respect: Treating others with dignity, empathy, and understanding.

3. Responsibility: Taking ownership of one’s actions and obligations.

4. Excellence: Striving for the highest quality and continuous improvement.

5. Compassion: Showing kindness, empathy, and care towards others.

6. Courage: Facing challenges with bravery and perseverance.

7. Equality: Believing in fairness and justice for all individuals.

8. Gratitude: Appreciating the blessings and expressing thankfulness.

9. Authenticity: Being true to oneself and living with transparency.

10. Collaboration: Working together and valuing teamwork and cooperation.

These are just a few examples, and individuals may prioritize different values based on their personal experiences, beliefs, and aspirations.

Actually living according to your Core Values involves aligning your actions, decisions, and behaviors with the principles that matter most to you. Here’s how you can do it.

Identify your core values. Reflect on what truly matters to you and define your core values. Write them down to have a clear understanding of what they are.

Integrate values into decision-making. When faced with choices or dilemmas, consider how each option aligns with your core values. Choose the path that resonates with your principles, even if it’s challenging.

Set goals aligned with your values. Define short-term and long-term goals that reflect your core values. This ensures that your actions are directed towards what you find meaningful and fulfilling.

Practice self-awareness. Regularly evaluate your thoughts, feelings, and actions to ensure they are consistent with your values. Adjust your behavior if you notice any discrepancies.

Communicate your values. Be open about your core values with others, including friends, family, and colleagues. This helps create authentic connections and fosters mutual understanding.

Stay true to yourself. Resist the temptation to compromise your values for external approval or short-term gains. Stand firm in your beliefs, even in the face of adversity.

Learn and grow. Continuously seek opportunities for personal growth and self-improvement that are in line with your core values. Embrace challenges as opportunities to strengthen your commitment to what matters most to you.

By consciously integrating your Core Values into your daily life, you can lead a more authentic, purposeful, and fulfilling existence. You will make better decisions, choose better friends, and set meaningful goals that motivate you to achieve your full potential. In short, you’ll live your very best life and you’ll know exactly how, and why you’re doing it.