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How to Develop Perseverance

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There are many very talented people who fall short of reaching their full potential. They are even more people who set forth on a journey towards success who never reach their final goal or destination.

Many of those simply gave up before they reached their goal. Many of those would have reached that goal if they could have just pushed themselves a little further. But they lacked one of the most important attributes of successful people. That attribute is perseverance.

Perseverance is so critical because with every endeavor comes challenges and obstacles. On every journey towards success there will be times of fatigue and stress. There will always be instances where quitting seems like the practical and perhaps only alternative. But sometimes doing what’s practical is the least practical thing to do.

People with perseverance understand that achieving ultimate success often requires doing the unconventional and many times doing it when they would much prefer not to. If you’re not certain that you have the perseverance required to succeed I have good news for you. You can develop it.

Developing perseverance involves two things. You must cultivate a mindset of success and adopt certain practices. These things help you stay committed to your goals despite challenges and setbacks. Here are some of those practices to help you develop perseverance.

• Set Clear Goals. Define specific, achievable goals that align with your values and aspirations. Having clarity about what you want to achieve will provide you with a sense of direction and purpose. You are never too old to set a new goal and it’s never too late to adjust a goal if circumstances dictate it.

• Break Goals into Smaller Tasks. Divide your goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This makes them less overwhelming and allows you to focus on making progress one step at a time. Never forget, all progress, big or small moves you closer to your goal so never let small steps dissuade you from pushing forward.

• Maintain a Positive Attitude. Cultivate a positive mindset and believe in your ability to overcome obstacles. Instead of dwelling on setbacks, focus on what you can learn from them and how you can improve. Your attitude is always your choice and choosing a positive attitude might be one of the most important choices you’ll ever make.

• Develop Resilience. Understand that setbacks are a natural part of any journey. Learn to bounce back from adversity by building resilience and adapting to challenges.

• Stay Committed. Commit to your goals wholeheartedly and prioritize them in your daily life. Avoid distractions and stay focused on what truly matters to you. Share your goals with people who care enough for you to hold you accountable. None of us exactly likes accountability but we all do better when we have it in our life.

• Practice Self-Discipline. Develop self-discipline by setting routines and sticking to them, even when you don’t feel motivated. Consistent effort over time leads to progress and eventual success.

• Ask for Help. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Also, seek mentors or peers who can encourage you in tough times. Stay away from negative naysayers who are not on the path to success and would like to knock you off yours as well.

• Celebrate Progress. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Recognizing your progress can boost your confidence and motivation to keep moving forward. Remember, all progress is progress and therefore worth celebrating.

• Learn from Setbacks. Embrace setbacks as an opportunity for growth and learning. Analyze what went wrong, extract valuable lessons, and use them to improve your approach in the future. Some people would say setbacks are the same as failures. The difference is setbacks are mere interruptions. Setbacks don’t become failures until you choose to not pick yourself up and begin again.

• Stay Flexible. Be willing to adapt your strategies and approach as needed. Sometimes, the path to success may require adjustments and course corrections along the way. The most successfully people expect the unexpected. They know “surprises” are likely to happen and they actually plan accordingly.

• Visualize Success. Use visualization techniques to imagine yourself achieving your goals. Visualizing success can help you stay motivated and focused on your desired outcome. In all likelihood, if you can see it, you can do it.

• Practice Patience. Understand that success often takes time and perseverance. Stay patient and trust the process, even when results may not come as quickly as you’d like. Just make sure you’re not mistaking patience for procrastination. Patience allows you to gather information while resting up a bit. Procrastination stops your momentum and most often leads directly to true failure.

By focusing on these practices and making them a daily habit, you can change your mindset. You will gradually develop greater perseverance and resilience to overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

You will be unstoppable!

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The Art of Diplomacy

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Life will always include some amount of conflict. Many people, including people in leadership positions, will go to great lengths to avoid engaging in conflict. Anything that is, except engaging in diplomacy.

Diplomacy makes it possible to resolve a conflict by working with people to find an outcome acceptable to all sides.

You may not believe that you are diplomatic enough to find middle ground with people of differing opinions. But it’s entirely possible you could be. Diplomacy is a skill and as I’ve written many times, skills can be developed through effort.

Being diplomatic involves managing communication and relationships well. It’s about navigating sensitive or contentious situations with tact, empathy, and consideration for others’ perspectives. If you’re interested in improving your diplomacy skills, here are some tips on how to make it happen.

Listen attentively. Understand the concerns, views, and feelings of others. Do so by actively listening without interruption. Show empathy and validate their feelings. Most importantly, listen with an open mind.

Choose words carefully. Use language that is neutral, respectful, and non-confrontational. Avoid inflammatory or accusatory language that could escalate tensions. It’s completely acceptable to have a few moments of silence in a conversation as you think about what you’re about to say. Never forget, once it’s said it can’t be unsaid. I’d rather people think I’m a slow thinking, slow talking individual than to say something I can’t unsay.

Focus on common ground. Find areas of agreement or shared goals. They will build rapport and a positive foundation for discussion. Even the smallest point of agreement can be a building block for a future resolution.

Acknowledge differences. Respectfully acknowledge differing viewpoints without dismissing or belittling them. Validate others’ perspectives even if you disagree. Remember, if you were them, with an identical upbringing and background, you would likely think exactly as they do. It’s not that they are necessary wrong, it’s just that they think different, based on their different upbringing.

Stay calm and composed. Maintain a calm demeanor, even in challenging situations. Avoid reacting impulsively or emotionally, as this can escalate conflicts. Think of it this way, if you lose control of your emotions, you lose.

Seek understanding. Ask clarifying questions to understand others’ concerns and motivations. This demonstrates your willingness to listen and collaborate.

Avoid blame and criticism. Instead of blaming or criticizing others, focus on solving problems and finding solutions.

Offer solutions. Propose compromises that address everyone’s concerns. Be open to negotiation and flexible in finding mutually beneficial outcomes.

Consider timing and context. Be mindful of when and where discussions take place. Choose appropriate settings and timing to have sensitive conversations. If someone doesn’t have time to talk then it’s best not to try and make them talk.

Maintain confidentiality. Respect confidentiality when discussing sensitive matters. Avoid sharing private information without permission. As they saying goes, two can keep a secret if one of them is dead. So when you’re told something in confidence, keep it confidential.

Build trust. Show truth, honor, and reliability in your actions. This will build trust over time.

After reaching agreements, follow up. Check that commitments are honored and that any issues are addressed.

By practicing these diplomatic strategies you can use diplomacy to resolve issues without starting a war. You can handle tough situations well. You can also build better relationships. This will create a more positive and productive environment.

It’ll build a happier you and in all likelihood, a happier “them” as well.

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Finding Happiness

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There was a popular song from years past that said “don’t worry, be happy.” It was a catchy tune and it hung around as a favorite song for longer than average.

While the song actually had some decent advice for fighting worry like “In every life we have some trouble but when you worry, you make it double.” Which is in fact true.

But just saying don’t worry, be happy isn’t going to get it done for most people.

Truly finding happiness is a complex and deeply personal journey. What brings happiness can vary greatly from person to person. However, here are some general ideas and practices that many people find helpful in cultivating happiness, even in the chaotic world in which we live today.

• Gratitude: Cultivating a sense of gratitude for what you have can significantly increase happiness. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re thankful for, whether they’re big or small. This is the very first thing I try to do each day, it sets a grateful tone for the day and helps make the chaos of the day a little less stressful.

• Positive relationships: Surround yourself with supportive and positive people. Nurture your relationships with friends, family, and loved ones. Connecting with others and feeling a sense of belonging can bring immense joy.

• Mindfulness and living in the present: Practice mindfulness and being fully present in the moment. Engage in activities that allow you to immerse yourself in the present experience. Pay attention to your surroundings, the world and the people in it are pretty amazing. On any given day there is plenty happening right around you that can turn a frown into a smile.

• Acts of kindness: Engage in acts of kindness and generosity towards others. Helping others not only benefits them but also boosts your own sense of well-being and happiness. Here’s a challenge for you, this very day, do something for someone else and DON’T LET THEM FIND OUT YOU DID IT. That is a whole lot harder to do than you think because we humans tend to like to receive “credit” for our kindness. But show some kindness anyway and be happy for the simple reason that you are kind, whether anyone else realizes it or not.

• Pursue passions and hobbies: Make time for activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it’s a creative pursuit, a sport, or a hobby, dedicating time to things you love can enhance your overall happiness.

• Exercise and health: Take care of your physical health through regular exercise, proper nutrition, and adequate sleep. Physical well-being is closely linked to mental and emotional well-being.

• Set meaningful goals: Set goals that align with your values and aspirations. Working towards meaningful objectives can provide a sense of purpose and accomplishment, contributing to your overall happiness.

• Cultivate resilience: Learn to bounce back from setbacks and challenges. Developing resilience allows you to navigate life’s ups and downs with greater ease and maintain a positive outlook. Stuff happens, it’s part of life and most stuff that happens is temporary. Never allow a temporary situation to steal even a moment of your happiness.

• Don’t sweat the small stuff: My dad lived longer with a transplanted heart than other heart transplant recipient. He was a big time worrier but once he got the new heart he was a changed man. He said the secret to happiness wasn’t just not sweating the small stuff, he said it was realizing that in the totality of life, it’s all small stuff.

Happiness is not a destination but a journey. It’s normal for feelings of happiness to ebb and flow over time. By incorporating these practices into your life and remaining open to growth and self-discovery, you can cultivate a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment.

Happiness is a choice but it’s not just a choice to simply be happy. It’s a choice to proactively seek happiness and protect it once you find it. I hope you’ll make that choice because I know that you’ll be happy you did.

Want more LeadToday? Many of you know I’m very active on X, the social media platform formerly known as Twitter. I post a lot of free content there but I also post 6-10 minute videos two or three times a week. These videos are focused on principles of leadership and living your best life. They are “uncommon” common sense topics designed to help people push themselves to their full potential. Every video is available to subscribers who invest $4.99 a month for their future success. If you’re willing to push yourself towards the life you want and deserve my videos may just be the extra nudge you need to get there. Find your way over to X and follow me there. Once you’ve followed me you can subscribe on a month by month basis just by clicking the subscribe button. Remember, an investment in yourself ALWAYS pays dividends! You’ll find my timeline here: twitter.com/leadtoday

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Listen to the Whispers

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Many CEOs around the world would be shocked to learn what is really going on in their organizations. Most know only what their direct reports want them to know. They receive “sanitized” reports on what’s happening around the organization. Those reports are rarely lies. But, they also lack the “color” that would greatly impact how the CEO receives the report.

The bigger the organization the less likely it is that the CEO will truly know everything that’s going on. It’s also likely that they don’t need to know absolutely everything that’s going on. But they would benefit greatly from knowing what’s being whispered in the hallways of their organization. In fact, it’s been said that if we listen to the whispers we’ll never have to hear the yelling. That’s because in organizations where the whispers are heard there is no yelling.

But hearing the whispers requires a connection that many people in senior leadership positions don’t have with their people.

Senior leaders can stay connected to their people through many strategies. These strategies aim to foster communication, understanding, and alignment within the organization. Here are some of the ways the most informed senior leaders stay connected to their people.

Regular Communication. Senior leaders should talk to employees often. They can use many channels such as team meetings, town halls, emails, blogs, and videos. This helps keep employees informed about company goals, strategies, and changes. It also gives a platform for feedback and questions. Just so we’re clear on this, “regular” doesn’t mean once a year during the holidays. When thinking “regular” also think frequent. Some form of communication weekly is not overdoing it.

Open-Door Policy. Senior leaders should keep an open-door policy. Employees should feel comfortable approaching them with concerns, ideas, or feedback. This accessibility fosters trust and transparency within the organization. A CEO’s door can’t always be open but scheduled open doors can be very useful. When people know their CEO is available to anyone from 1:00 – 4:00pm one day a week for example, it fosters a transparency that leads to truly open communication.

Employee Feedback Mechanisms. Implementing formal feedback mechanisms such as employee surveys, suggestion boxes, or regular one-on-one meetings allows employees to provide feedback directly to senior leadership. Actively listening to and acting upon that feedback demonstrates that their opinions are valued.

Employee Recognition Programs. Recognizing and celebrating employee achievements and milestones can help senior leadership connect with employees on a personal level. This can include shout-outs in meetings, awards, or personalized notes of appreciation.

Regular Check-ins. Senior leaders should check in with employees often. They should discuss the employees’ goals, challenges, and career aspirations. And I don’t just mean with their direct reports. An occasional random pop-in visit with lower level team members can be very eye opening for a CEO or senior leader. But understand it may take some time for team members to open up and give senior leaders the true “color” that’s often missing from their regular reports.

Transparency. Transparency about company decisions, performance, and challenges builds trust. It also fosters a sense of shared purpose among employees. Senior leaders should share relevant information. They should do so openly and honestly, even if it involves tough topics. Some information can’t be shared, especially in public companies. But, there is much more that can be shared than not. The best senior leaders share a much information as is possible.

Lead by Example. Senior leadership leads by example, whether they intend to or not. Their example should embody the values and behaviors they expect from their people. This includes demonstrating empathy, active listening, and a commitment to continuous improvement.

Invest in People Development. Supporting people development through training, mentoring, and coaching programs demonstrates a commitment to growth and career progression. It also helps senior leadership stay connected with employees by understanding their skills, aspirations, and challenges.

Empower Middle Leaders. Senior leaders should empower middle leaders. They will serve as conduits between the senior leaders and frontline team members. Middle leaders can provide valuable insights into employee feelings and concerns. They also help spread strategic messages throughout the organization.

Social Events and Team Building Activities. Organizing social events and team-building activities creates chances for senior leaders to interact with staff. This happens in a less formal setting. This can help break down barriers and foster stronger relationships within the organization.

Above all remain visible. I know it’s super easy to fall into the trap called the “tyranny of the urgent.” We want to get the seemingly urgent tasks out of the way but we often do that at the expense of the important ones. As a leader, nothing is more important than the people you lead. When a leader forgets that, chaos ensues and yelling soon follows.

Put yourself in a position to hear the whispers and you’ll avoid the chaos and the yelling that goes with it.

Want more LeadToday? Many of you know I’m very active on X, the social media platform formerly known as Twitter. I post a lot of free content there but I also post 6-10 minute videos two or three times a week. These videos are focused on principles of leadership and living your best life. They are “uncommon” common sense topics designed to help people push themselves to their full potential. Every video is available to subscribers who invest $4.99 a month for their future success. If you’re willing to push yourself towards the life you want and deserve my videos may just be the extra nudge you need to get there. Find your way over to X using a browser and follow me there. Once you’ve followed me you can subscribe on a month by month basis just by clicking the subscribe button. Remember, an investment in yourself ALWAYS pays dividends! You’ll find my timeline here: twitter.com/leadtoday

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Curious Success

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I’ve heard it said, often, that curiosity killed the cat. I’m not a cat person so I can’t speak to how accurate that may or may not be. But I can tell you one thing that curiosity does for sure…it creates success.

I went to college to earn a degree in Electrical Engineering. I wanted to invent cool stuff. My high school guidance counselor agreed I was a great fit for that kind of career. We were both wrong. I got my degree and had job offers even before I graduated. I went to work designing currency validation systems. If you’ve ever put a dollar bill in a vending machine you’ve used some of my early work.

But I wasn’t very good at designing new stuff. I was however better than almost anyone at fixing new stuff other people designed. I knew almost instinctively where their design had gone wrong because I knew exactly how electronic components were supposed to work together.

But I just wasn’t curious enough to experiment with new uses for technology. I also wasn’t interested in cleaning up somebody else’s mess so I pretty quickly left my engineering days behind.

After a few career twists and turns I discovered that while I wasn’t curious about circuitry I was very curious about people. That led me to what I’ve now been doing for years and years, “creating” more successful people.

I take as much pride in helping other people succeed as I’ve ever taken in my own success. And I’m still as curious about people today as I’ve ever been. That’s why I can say without a doubt that curiosity creates success.

Being more curious is a valuable trait that can lead to personal growth, learning, and creativity. Curiosity is actually a skill that you can develop. If you’re interested in being more curious here are some strategies to cultivate and enhance your curiosity.

• Stay open-minded. Approach situations with a willingness to explore and learn. Avoid preconceived notions and judgments, as they can limit your curiosity. Every person on the planet knows something that you don’t know. That means you can learn from anyone…if you keep an open mind.

• Ask questions. Develop a habit of asking questions about the world around you. Wonder why things are the way they are, how they work, or what might happen if they were different. By the way, once you ask the question, listen, truly listen, to the answer.

• Seek new experiences. Step out of your comfort zone and expose yourself to new environments, people, and ideas. Traveling, trying new hobbies, or attending events outside of your usual routine can spark curiosity.

• Embrace uncertainty. Instead of feeling uncomfortable with the unknown, view it as an opportunity for discovery. Curiosity thrives in situations where there are gaps in knowledge.

• Engage in active listening. Pay attention to what others say and genuinely try to understand their perspectives. This can lead to intriguing conversations and new insights. Remember, you can learn from anyone.

• Read widely. Explore books, articles, and other forms of literature on a variety of topics. Exposing yourself to diverse ideas and viewpoints can stimulate curiosity and broaden your understanding of the world. Reading is one of the most productive activities you can do. So set time aside, frequently, to read a bunch of stuff.

• Stay curious about yourself. Reflect on your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Ask yourself why you think or feel a certain way and be open to discovering new aspects of your identity.

• Like every idea for 10 minutes. Less curious people tend to dismiss new ideas too quickly. Train yourself to like every new idea or concept you hear for 10 minutes before dismissing it or trying to tear it to pieces. Those 10 minutes could completely change your thinking, and your life.

• Connect with others. Engage in discussions with people who have different backgrounds, interests, and expertise than your own. Their perspectives can inspire new lines of inquiry and fuel your curiosity. Remember, even if their ideas seem a little weird to you, you’re gonna like them for at least 10 minutes.

• Experiment and play. Approach life with a sense of playfulness and experimentation. Try out new ideas, tinker with solutions, and don’t be afraid to make mistakes along the way. Curiosity is fun and fun is good.

By incorporating these strategies into your daily life, you can nurture and strengthen your curiosity. That will lead to greater success in all areas of your life.

For a lot of people being curious seems a bit risky. But I still would say, unless you’re a cat, there are a ton of benefits to being curious and it’s way better than just living in the world you already know.

I’m curious to know if you agree.

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How to Read People

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Reading people involves observing their behavior, body language, verbal cues, and emotions to understand their thoughts, feelings, and intentions. The greatest advantage to possessing the skill of reading people is that it immensely improves our ability to communicate with them.

Many people believe they possess this skill but many of those would be wrong. Most people typically overestimate their ability in this area. That causes miscommunication and oftentimes false assumptions.

Fortunately, reading people is a skill and that means we can become more effective with it through effort and practice. Here’s a bit of a primer to help you develop the skill of reading people more effectively.

• Observe body language. Pay attention to gestures, facial expressions, posture, and eye movements. For example, crossed arms might indicate defensiveness or discomfort, while leaning forward could signal interest or engagement.

• Listen actively. Focus not only on what someone says but also on how they say it. Tone of voice, speed of speech, and emphasis can convey underlying emotions and attitudes.

• Notice patterns. Look for consistent behaviors or reactions across different situations. These patterns can reveal someone’s habitual responses and personality traits.

• Consider context. Understand the context in which the person is communicating. Cultural norms, environment, and past experiences can influence behavior and communication style.

• Pay attention to non-verbal cues. In addition to body language, consider other non-verbal cues such as breathing rate, sweating, and fidgeting. These signals can provide insights into someone’s emotional state.

• Empathize. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and imagine how they might be feeling or thinking. Empathy can help you better understand their perspective and motivations.

• Ask open-ended questions. Encourage the person to share more about themselves and their experiences. Open-ended questions prompt deeper reflection and reveal more about their thoughts and feelings.

• Trust your instincts. Intuition can be a powerful tool in reading people. If something feels off or inconsistent, don’t ignore it. Trust your gut instincts but also verify your observations through further interaction and communication.

• Be mindful of biases. Be aware of your own biases and preconceptions, which can influence how you interpret someone’s behavior. Try to approach each interaction with an open mind and without judgment.

• Seek clarification. If you’re unsure about someone’s intentions or emotions, don’t hesitate to ask for clarification. Direct communication can help resolve misunderstandings and deepen your understanding of the other person.

Reading people is not about making assumptions or jumping to conclusions. It is not a skill that should be used to manipulate people. It is about gathering information and understanding others more deeply. It’s a skill that requires practice, empathy, and open-mindedness.

It’s a skill that YOU can develop!

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Eliminating Self-Doubt

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Lots of “self-help” types would tell you that when you believe in yourself, when you trust your ability, you are halfway to success already. When I say “lots” I mean a ton of them. It’s kind of amazing that so many of them think alike but what’s even more amazing it that every single one of them is 100% correct.

Believing in yourself is a true superpower. It strengthens every strength and weakens every weakness. It is a “self motivating” mindset. It is an encouraging attitude. It is like having a coach living inside your head.

Believing in yourself changes everything!

The first step to consistently believing in yourself and trusting yourself is to cleanse your mind of self-doubt. That’s often easier said than done but most everything worth doing is easier said than done. But getting that self-doubt out of your system is soooooo worth the effort.

Eliminating self-doubt is a process that involves understanding its roots and implementing strategies to overcome it. Here’s what that process looks like.

• Identify the Source. Self-doubt often stems from past experiences, negative feedback, or comparison with others. Reflect on what triggers your self-doubt and try to pinpoint its source.

• Challenge Negative Thoughts. When self-doubt arises, challenge the negative thoughts that accompany it. Ask yourself if there’s evidence to support these thoughts or if they are merely assumptions. Replace them with more positive and realistic affirmations.

• Set Realistic Goals. Break down your goals into smaller, achievable tasks. This helps build confidence as you make progress. Celebrate each accomplishment, no matter how small.

• Focus on Strengths. Acknowledge your strengths and past successes. Remind yourself of times when you overcame challenges or achieved something significant. Keep a journal of your achievements to refer to when self-doubt creeps in.

• Practice Self-Compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when facing setbacks or failures. Instead of berating yourself, practice self-compassion by offering words of encouragement and forgiveness.

• Surround Yourself with Supportive People. Spend time with people who uplift and encourage you. Seek feedback and support from friends, family, or mentors who believe in your abilities and can offer constructive criticism.

• Focus on Personal Growth. Shift your focus from comparing yourself to others to improving yourself. Concentrate on continuous learning and growth rather than seeking external validation.

• Visualize Success. Use visualization techniques to imagine yourself succeeding in your goals. Visualizing positive outcomes can help boost confidence and reduce self-doubt.

• Ask for Help if Necessary. If self-doubt significantly impacts your daily life or mental well-being, consider seeking help from a mentor, close friend or maybe even a counselor. They can provide personalized strategies and support to overcome self-doubt.

Remember that eliminating self-doubt is a gradual process. It requires patience and perseverance. Don’t be too hard on yourself when the inevitable doubt tries to creep back in. Just redouble your efforts and don’t forget to celebrate your progress along the way.

YOU GOT THIS!

Want more LeadToday? Many of you know I’m very active on X, the social media platform formerly known as Twitter. I post a lot of free content there but I also post 6-10 minute videos two or three times a week. These videos are focused on principles of leadership and life. They are “uncommon” common sense topics designed to help people push themselves to their full potential. Every video is available to subscribers who invest $4.99 a month for their future success. If you’re willing to push yourself towards the life you want and deserve my videos may just be the extra nudge you need to get there. Find your way over to X and follow me there. Once you’ve followed me you can subscribe on a month by month basis just by clicking the subscribe button. Remember, an investment in yourself ALWAYS pays dividends! You’ll find my timeline here: twitter.com/leadtoday

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