How to Be You

There are a whole bunch of people in the world who are a lot more tired than they need to be. That’s because they aren’t just being one person, they are trying, in many cases, to be multiple people. At work they are a person who tries to present a professional image. At church they are a God fearing believer. In their social life they are a carefree fun loving life of the party person. With their kids they are the loving authoritarian. They are so many different people in the same day it’s no wonder they are so tired.

They are also often confused because when you switch between all those personas, it’s easy to lose track of which one to be at any moment. It’s tough work being who you think other people want you to be. Or who you think you’re supposed to be.

Life is a whole lot easier and a whole lot less stressful when you find the courage to just be you. You’re authentic self, 100% of the time.

Being authentic means being true to yourself and living in alignment with your values, beliefs, and personality. It means being real and honest in your actions, words, and interactions. You don’t pretend to be someone you’re not or bow to society’s expectations or pressures.

Being authentic means being self-aware. It also means self-acceptance and the courage to express yourself honestly. This may mean being vulnerable or facing criticism. It’s about embracing your uniqueness. And, owning your thoughts, feelings, and experiences without fear of judgment. Being authentic lets you live a more fulfilling life. It fosters deeper connections with others. It also promotes inner peace and contentment.

Being authentic may not get you the most friends but it will positively get you the right ones.

Being your authentic self involves a journey of self-discovery and self-expression. Here are some steps to help you along the way.

Self-Reflection. Take time to reflect on your values, beliefs, and interests. Ask yourself what truly matters to you and what makes you happy. It is amazing how many people have NEVER invested the time required to truly know themselves. Don’t wait another day to figure yourself out. Journaling or meditation can be helpful tools for this.

Self-Acceptance. Embrace all aspects of yourself, including your strengths, weaknesses, quirks, and imperfections. Accept that you are unique and that it’s okay to be different from others.

Set Boundaries. Establish healthy boundaries to protect your time, energy, and well-being. Learn to say no to things that don’t fit your values or goals. Instead, prioritize activities and relationships that fulfill you.

Authentic Communication. Practice expressing yourself honestly and openly, both verbally and non-verbally. Share your thoughts, feelings, and opinions authentically, without fear of judgment or rejection.

Follow Your Passions. Pursue activities and interests that ignite your passion and bring you joy. It could be a hobby, creative project, or career. Following your passions lets you fully engage with life and be yourself.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People. Surround yourself with people who accept you and encourage you to be yourself. Build close relationships with friends, family, and mentors. They should support your personal growth and authenticity.

Embrace Vulnerability. Be willing to be vulnerable and share your true self with others. Vulnerability fosters deeper connections and allows others to see the real you

Continuous Growth. Being yourself is a process. It’s ongoing and about self-discovery. Stay open to new experiences, challenges, and opportunities for personal development.

Celebrate Your Authenticity. Celebrate your unique qualities, talents, and contributions to the world. Embrace who you are wholeheartedly and take pride in living authentically.

Never forget, someone else’s opinion of you is their problem, not yours. Living an authentic life is one of the most “freeing” things you will ever do. YOU were made the way you are for a purpose, find that purpose, live it, and your authenticity is assured.

One-Time
Monthly
Yearly

Consider buying my next Diet Coke(s)
Yes, I know it’s not the healthiest beverage but I kind of sort of live on the stuff… and the stuff is getting as expensive as gold. 😋
I’d appreciate any support but seriously, support or not, I’ll continue to try and write a blog that gives back, informs and sometimes even entertains. I hope you enjoy it!

Make a monthly donation

Make a yearly donation

Choose an amount

$5.00
$15.00
$100.00
$5.00
$15.00
$100.00
$5.00
$15.00
$100.00

Or enter a custom amount

$

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

DonateDonate monthlyDonate yearly

Why Quitting is a Bad Idea

I’ve been fortunate to know many successful people. They come from all walks of life, many different cultures, backgrounds, and industries. Many of them report one particular similarity in their journeys to success. That similarity is that they faced a myriad of challenges and obstacles on their individual journey to success.

Some of the challenges were severe enough that they felt like quitting. Some of them say they had that feeling multiple times along the way. And yet, they managed to pull themselves up from the depths of despair and push their way forward.

They persevered.

That perseverance nearly always resulted in ultimate success. Many times that success was right around the corner from their lowest point in the journey. It was that one final extra push that put them over the top.

But there are also many people I’ve met who just couldn’t muster that final extra push. Rather than persevere they packed it in. They quit. And then they wondered, sometimes for years, what might have been if they had continued on.

When you feel like quitting, it’s important to remember that setbacks are a natural part of any journey, and they don’t define your ultimate success. Here’s how to stay motivated and keep pushing forward.

Remember Your Why. Reconnect with the reasons why you started in the first place. What are your goals? What motivates you? Keeping your purpose in mind can reignite your passion and determination. Re-dream the dream. You began your journey based on a dream. Dream that dream anew…even if you have to dream it every day.

Break it Down. Sometimes, the journey ahead can seem overwhelming. Break your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Focus on taking one step at a time, celebrating each small victory along the way. Never forget that all progress is progress. Even a tiny step is better than no step at all. Celebrate it!

Seek Support. Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends, family, mentors, or colleagues when you’re feeling discouraged. Talking to others can provide perspective, encouragement, and new ideas for overcoming obstacles. But, make sure you’re talking with the right people. Select people who truly care for you and want you to succeed. Stay away from the nattering nabobs of negativism.

Visualize Success. Imagine yourself achieving your goals. Visualizing success can help you stay focused and motivated, even when faced with challenges. Someone smarter than me once said if you can see it you can do it. I believe that is true.

Practice Self-Compassion. Be kind to yourself, especially when things aren’t going as planned. There will be plenty of things, and perhaps people, willing to beat you down. There is no need to add your own negative thoughts to the list. Instead, acknowledge your efforts and progress, and don’t be too hard on yourself for setbacks. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a friend in a similar situation.

Adjust Your Approach. If what you’re doing isn’t working, it may be time to try a different approach. Stay flexible and open-minded, and be willing to adapt your strategy as needed. Sometimes, the fastest way forward is to take a step or two backwards in order to get a different perspective.

Focus on the Present. Instead of dwelling on past failures or worrying about future obstacles, focus on the present moment. What can you do right now to move closer to your goals? If you’re “stuck” then just consider what the next “right thing” to do is. No matter how small a thing it may be it’s still progress and it’s still creating momentum towards your ultimate goal.

Find Inspiration. Surround yourself with sources of inspiration, whether it’s reading success stories, listening to motivational Ted Talks, or spending time doing something fun. Draw strength from the achievements of others and let them inspire you to keep going.

Remember that It’s Okay to Rest. Sometimes, pushing through isn’t the best option. It’s important to listen to your body and mind. Taking a break to recharge can give you the energy and clarity you need to tackle challenges with renewed vigor.

By implementing these strategies and staying resilient, you can overcome obstacles and continue making progress towards your goals, even when the temptation to quit is strong.

One-Time
Monthly
Yearly

Consider buying my next Diet Coke(s)
Yes, I know it’s not the healthiest beverage but I kind of sort of live on the stuff… and the stuff is getting as expensive as gold. 😋
I’d appreciate any support but seriously, support or not, I’ll continue to try and write a blog that gives back, informs and sometimes even entertains.

Make a monthly donation

Make a yearly donation

Choose an amount

$5.00
$15.00
$100.00
$5.00
$15.00
$100.00
$5.00
$15.00
$100.00

Or enter a custom amount

$

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

DonateDonate monthlyDonate yearly