Do You Have PRIDE?

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” — Jim Rohn

Being prideful is not a good thing. It leads directly to boasting about accomplishments and it turns people off. Being proud of what you’ve accomplished is a very different thing.

When you have pride in your work it shows, people notice, you stand out from the crowd. You don’t have to tell anyone how successful you are, they can see it for themselves.

PRIDE leads directly to success. Here’s how I define PRIDE:

Personal – Your success is about you. If you’re blaming others for your lack of success you will find it nearly impossible to succeed. Until you fully understand that your success is completely up to you there will always be an excuse available that prevents you from reaching your full potential.

Responsibility – You’re responsible for everything you say and do. You’re also responsible for everything you don’t say and do. When you accept 100% responsibility for your life and happiness lots of things change. When you accept 100% responsibility for controlling your attitude and you decide that your attitude will remain positive then everything changes. 

In – The most successful people live in “day-tight” compartments. The don’t waste a minute worrying about yesterday and they know that if they take care of today then tomorrow will be better for it. Focus your energies on what you can control and understand that the only day you truly have any control over is the day you’re living right now.

Daily – Success comes from daily effort. The most successful people learn something new every single day. The most successful people do something every single day to get closer to one of their goals. The most successful people do something for someone else every single day. The most successful people make every single day matter. They value time as one of their greatest assets, they waste none of it.

Efforts – Success requires effort. Always! Successful people sometimes fail but they do not fail to try again. They understand that not much worth having comes easy and they are willing to work for what they want from life. Successful people do not wait for a “break,” they work to make a break for themselves. This seems like too simplistic of a statement but the fact is successful people almost always just plain outwork less successful people. They put in the effort required to succeed.

So have PRIDE and see the difference it will make for you! 

The High Cost of Low Trust

Trust is hard to come by today. In the United States the two people who will compete for the Presidency this fall are the least trusted candidates ever to run for that high office. 

Laws are put in place basically to combat lack of trust. U.S. Federal regulations cost businesses the equivalent of a little more than 10% of the gross domestic product. Lack of trust is truly expensive.

When trust is low within an organization then every communication, every interaction, every strategy, every decision is doubted, slowing things down and increasing costs. Some research shows that a lack of trust can as much as triple the time it takes to accomplish anything worthwhile.

Building trust and credibility should be a daily activity for all leaders. Just because you have trust today doesn’t mean you always will. Trust must be constantly nurtured. Assuming that you are trusted simply because you consider yourself trustworthy is an all too common mistake for leaders. 

There are many actions that a leader can take to build trust on a daily basis, here are just a few.

Be a straight talker. Use tact, be polite, and show compassion. But when something needs to be said then say it. Say it in a way that won’t be misunderstood. Ask a question or two to verify that the message you intended to convey is the message that was heard. Assume 100% responsibility for the effectiveness of your communications, after all, you have the audacity to call yourself a leader. So don’t make someone else responsible for understanding something you said.

Admit when you’re wrong. Leaders can be wrong, just like every other human being on earth. Dale Carnegie said, “when you’re wrong admit it quickly and emphatically.” That is an important principle for leaders to keep in mind. Trying to hide a mistake is often a bigger mistake than the mistake you’re trying to hide.

Be trusting. If you want other people to trust you then you need to trust other people as well. I recently had a conversation with someone who told me that they would never “just trust” someone. They said that trust had to be earned. They said that they “tested” people by asking them to do little things, the kind of things that it didn’t really matter if they were done or not. The people were not told they were being tested with meaningless tasks. 

When I said it seemed to me that they might be deceiving people to determine if they were trustworthy I was told that “you can’t be honest with people you don’t trust.” That my friends is some messed up thinking and the kind of thinking that will certainly kill trust. 

The only honest way I know of to find out if someone is trustworthy is to trust them, really trust them. If you’re a leader and you want people to trust you then you must trust them first. It is called leading for a reason, you need to trust first.

Those are but a few of the many actions a leader must take daily to build trust. Clearly one of the biggest mistakes a leader can make is to assume they are trusted just because of their title or position. 

Actually, in today’s environment the opposite is more often true.