Dealing With Sudden Loss

Dealing with sudden loss, such as the loss of a loved one, a job, a relationship, or any other significant change, can be an incredibly challenging and emotionally distressing experience. Coping with sudden loss requires time, self-care, and support.

You need to be careful with your feelings during times of sudden loss. They are capable and convincing liars. After a job loss for instance they may try to convince you that you’re somehow a diminished person. That you are less than you were before. That’s all BS. You matter as much as ever. You make the world better because you’re in it. You bring value to the people in your life and you should never doubt that for a minute.

But suffering any significant loss is tough. There is no doubt about that. Here are some steps and strategies to help you navigate this difficult period.

• Allow yourself to grieve: It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself permission to grieve. Grief is a natural response to loss, and it’s okay to feel a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion.

• Seek support: Reach out to friends and family for emotional support. Talking to someone you trust can provide comfort and a sense of connection during this difficult time. You may also consider joining a support group or seeking the help of a therapist or counselor to talk through your feelings. You should know this absolute fact…THERE IS NOT A HINT OF SHAME IN NEEDING SOME ADDITIONAL SUPPORT IN A TIME OF LOSS.

• Take care of your physical health: Grief can take a toll on your body, so it’s important to maintain your physical health. Eat nutritious meals, get enough sleep, and engage in regular physical activity to help manage stress and maintain your overall well-being.

• Create a routine: Establishing a daily routine can provide structure and stability during a time of upheaval. Having a sense of predictability can be comforting and help you regain a sense of control.

• Avoid major life decisions: During the initial stages of grief, try to avoid making significant life decisions, if possible. You may not be in the best mindset to make clear choices, and your perspective can change as you process your loss over time.

• Write or journal: Expressing your feelings through writing can be therapeutic. Keeping a journal can help you explore your emotions, track your progress, and gain insight into your grief journey.

• Memorialize or commemorate the loss: Find a way to remember and honor the person or thing you’ve lost. This could involve creating a memorial, holding a memorial service, or participating in activities that remind you of positive memories.

• Be patient with yourself: Grieving is a unique and individual process, and there is no set timeline for when you should “get over” your loss. Allow yourself to heal at your own pace and don’t rush the process.

• Seek professional help if needed: If your grief becomes overwhelming, persistent, or disrupts your ability to function in daily life, it’s important to consider speaking to a mental health professional who can offer guidance and support.

Remember that healing from a sudden loss is a gradual and ongoing process. If you have people in your life who tell you to “just get over it” then it might be time to be over them. They may be well meaning but they clearly don’t understand significant loss. I’d advise against taking advice from the “just get over it” types.

Over time, the intensity of your grief may lessen, but it’s common for waves of sadness to resurface, especially on anniversaries or other significant dates. By taking the time to address your emotions and seeking support when needed, you can work through your grief and eventually find a sense of peace and acceptance.

How to Cope When You’ve Been Laid Off

Dealing with job loss can be a challenging and stressful experience. It makes little difference how the job loss came about. Whether you were deservedly terminated or laid off through no fault of your own, it’s very difficult to accept. But there are several steps you can take to navigate this difficult situation. Here’s a few thoughts on how to go about it.

  • Losing a job can bring up a range of emotions such as shock, anger, frustration, or even sadness. It’s important to acknowledge and accept these feelings as a natural part of the process. Give yourself time to grieve and reflect on what happened before moving forward. However, don’t give yourself too much time. There is a fine line between grieving the loss of a job and throwing yourself a never ending pity party. 
  • Evaluate your financial position and determine how long you can sustain yourself without a job. Review your savings, expenses, and any other sources of income you may have. Creating a budget can help you manage your finances effectively during this period of transition.
  • Look into any available resources provided by your previous employer. Things like severance packages, career counseling, or job placement services can help. Check with government agencies, local job centers, or nonprofit organizations that offer support for job seekers. They may provide guidance, training, or even financial assistance.
  • Update your resume with your most recent job experience, highlighting your skills and accomplishments. Consider taking courses, attending workshops, or acquiring certifications to enhance your skill set. That makes you more marketable to potential employers. This is also an excellent time to reflect on your career goals and consider if a career change or further education may be beneficial.
  • Tap into your professional and personal networks to let people know you are actively seeking new job opportunities. There is no shame in losing a job or needing to look for work. Tell anyone and everyone you’re looking and directly ask them for help. Attend industry events, join professional associations, and engage in online networking platforms such as LinkedIn. Engage friends, family, and former colleagues in your search and ask for any leads or recommendations they may have.
  • Customize your job search approach based on your skills, interests, and the current job market. Utilize online job boards, company websites, recruitment agencies. Don’t overlook social media platforms to explore job openings. Consider reaching out directly to companies you are interested in, even if they are not advertising any vacancies.
  • Job loss can be emotionally draining. It’s crucial to maintain a positive mindset and take care of your physical and mental well-being. Engage in activities that bring you enjoy. Practice self-care, exercise regularly, and spend time with loved ones who can offer support.
  • While searching for a new job, you may want to explore alternative options such as freelancing, consulting, or starting your own business. These avenues can provide temporary income and potentially open up new opportunities for your career.

Job searching can sometimes be a lengthy process, and rejection is a normal part of it. Don’t get discouraged by setbacks or rejections. Stay motivated, learn from each experience, and adapt your approach if needed. Persistence is key to finding the right job opportunity.

If you’re struggling to cope with the emotional impact of job loss or finding it challenging to navigate the job market, consider seeking guidance from a career counselor or coach. They can provide valuable insights, support, and help you develop strategies to overcome any obstacles you may face.

Job loss is not a reflection of your worth or abilities. By taking proactive steps, staying resilient, and maintaining a positive outlook, you can turn this challenging period into an opportunity for personal and professional growth.

Remember, you were looking for a job when you found the one you just lost. That makes the odds overwhelmingly likely that you can do it again. Never ever stop believing in yourself because job or no job, you matter. You make a difference in the world and the people around you. You were born for success and the next job you say yes to may be the one that fulfills you beyond what you can even imagine. Your future is as bright as you choose to make it and never allow the loss of a job to cause you to think otherwise.

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