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Understanding the Consequences of Procrastination

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Sooner or later, (pun intended) we all procrastinate. We put off that important task for tomorrow, convincing ourselves there’s still plenty of time. A little delay never hurt anyone, right? Unfortunately, procrastination is more than just a bad habit. Over time, it can quietly erode our productivity, damage our reputation, and rob us of peace of mind.

If you don’t think that’s true, then it’s likely you’re in denial about what your delays are costing you. Understanding the real consequences of procrastination is the first step toward breaking free from its grip.

Missed Opportunities

Procrastination often causes us to miss out on valuable opportunities. Whether it’s applying for a job, submitting a proposal, or starting a business idea, delays can close doors that might never open again. Time-sensitive opportunities don’t wait, and when we postpone action, we often lose out by default.

Increased Stress and Anxiety

Putting things off rarely makes them go away. In fact, the longer a task is delayed, the more it weighs on our minds. What starts as a small to-do item can quickly grow into a source of overwhelming stress. Deadlines loom larger, responsibilities pile up, and the mental burden becomes harder to bear. Chronic procrastination leads to a constant state of anxiety that affects both work and personal life.

Lower Quality of Work

When tasks are rushed at the last minute, quality suffers. We don’t give ourselves enough time to plan, think critically, or make necessary revisions. The result is often subpar work that doesn’t reflect our true potential. Over time, this can damage our credibility and limit growth opportunities. Now, some of you will say that you work better under pressure—there is no research to support that assertion. You might just be kidding yourself.

Damaged Relationships

Procrastination doesn’t just affect us—it affects the people around us. When we delay tasks that others are depending on, we let them down. Missed commitments and broken promises can strain relationships with colleagues, friends, and family. Trust is easy to lose and hard to rebuild.

Reduced Self-Confidence

Every time we procrastinate, we reinforce a cycle of avoidance and regret. This can lead to a negative self-image, where we begin to see ourselves as unreliable or incapable. Over time, this undermines our self-confidence and motivation, making it even harder to take action in the future.

Stunted Personal and Professional Growth

Progress requires consistent effort. When we procrastinate, we stall our development. Goals take longer to reach—if they’re reached at all. Skills go unrefined, and potential remains untapped. Procrastination is a silent thief of time and growth.

Breaking the Cycle

The good news is that procrastination isn’t a permanent trait—it’s a habit that can be changed. Start with small steps:

Break large tasks into manageable parts.

Set clear deadlines—even self-imposed ones.

Remove distractions from your environment.

Reward yourself for progress.

Practice self-compassion and don’t let past procrastination define you.

The sooner you act, the more control you regain over your time, energy, and future.

Procrastination might feel harmless in the moment, but over time, its consequences compound. Recognizing the cost is the first step toward reclaiming your momentum—and your life.

How to Lift Your Spirits

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I think everyone feels a little blue from time to time. Some people simply hide it better than others. There are lots of reasons why that happens and all of them are associated with this thing we call life.

Most of the time, we get past the blues without taking any specific action. Something good happens, and we snap out of it. But sometimes, the blues hang around a little longer than they should. Long enough in fact, that they start to cause us problems.

Problems with our attitudes. Problems with our productivity and creativity. We might procrastinate more than normal. We might even start to have relationship issues.

If any of those things are happening to you, then it may be time to proactively pull yourself back towards your peak performance. Here’s a handful of suggestions to make that happen.

1. Physical Activity: Exercise isn’t just good for your body; it’s a proven mood booster. Go for a run, lift some weights, or even dance like nobody’s watching. Endorphins are your friends, so do something, anything to get yourself moving. Sitting on the couch just ain’t gonna get it done.

2. Sunlight: Get some natural light. It helps regulate your serotonin levels, which can significantly improve your mood. Even if it’s cloudy, just being outside can help.

3. Connect with Others: Humans are social creatures. Call a friend, have a real conversation, or, better yet, meet up if you can. Social interaction can be incredibly uplifting.

4. Gratitude Practice: This might sound cliché, but writing down three things you’re grateful for each day can shift your focus from what’s missing to what’s already there. This is a bigger deal than you may think. An “attitude of gratitude” can “fix” a whole lot of problems in your life; in fact, it can eliminate them altogether.

5. Limit News and Social Media: Sometimes, the world’s chaos can seep into your psyche. Take breaks from news cycles and the endless scroll of social media. Despite what you may see, hear, and read, the world isn’t ending today. I know that for a fact because it’s already tomorrow in Australia, so the rest of us “non-Aussies” have at least one more day. Let’s all make the most of it.

6. Creative Expression: Whether it’s drawing, writing, music, or any form of art, creating something can be therapeutic. It doesn’t have to be good; it just has to be done.

7. Set Small Goals: Achieving something, no matter how small, can give you a sense of accomplishment. Clean your room, cook a meal, or finish a chapter of a book. A surprisingly simple way to get your day off to a great start is to make your bed. Yep, start your day by making your bed and you’ve accomplished something before you even left the house.

8. Help Someone Else: Sometimes, lifting others can lift you. Volunteer, help a neighbor, or just do something kind for someone else. If you really want to boost your mood, do that something kind for someone else without them finding out it was you who did it. That’s harder than you think because we all like credit for doing something good. But it makes a huge difference for you if you just did it because it was the right thing to do.

These 8 suggestions are easy to do and they work. But here’s the thing, they are short-term solutions. If you find yourself constantly down in the dumps, that is not a good thing. It may be considerably more serious and if that’s the case, these ideas are much less likely to help. It’s entirely possible that you would benefit from professional help. If you’re really struggling, there’s no shame in seeking professional help. No shame at all, NONE. I’d even say it’s an incredibly courageous thing to do. Therapists are trained to help you navigate through tough times; it’s silly not to use their expertise when they are available to help you.

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay; it’s a sure sign you’re human. But it’s also okay to take active steps to feel better. Life’s a bit like a roller coaster; sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down, but with any luck, the ride’s not over yet.

Finding Happiness

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There was a popular song from years past that said “don’t worry, be happy.” It was a catchy tune and it hung around as a favorite song for longer than average.

While the song actually had some decent advice for fighting worry like “In every life we have some trouble but when you worry, you make it double.” Which is in fact true.

But just saying don’t worry, be happy isn’t going to get it done for most people.

Truly finding happiness is a complex and deeply personal journey. What brings happiness can vary greatly from person to person. However, here are some general ideas and practices that many people find helpful in cultivating happiness, even in the chaotic world in which we live today.

• Gratitude: Cultivating a sense of gratitude for what you have can significantly increase happiness. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re thankful for, whether they’re big or small. This is the very first thing I try to do each day, it sets a grateful tone for the day and helps make the chaos of the day a little less stressful.

• Positive relationships: Surround yourself with supportive and positive people. Nurture your relationships with friends, family, and loved ones. Connecting with others and feeling a sense of belonging can bring immense joy.

• Mindfulness and living in the present: Practice mindfulness and being fully present in the moment. Engage in activities that allow you to immerse yourself in the present experience. Pay attention to your surroundings, the world and the people in it are pretty amazing. On any given day there is plenty happening right around you that can turn a frown into a smile.

• Acts of kindness: Engage in acts of kindness and generosity towards others. Helping others not only benefits them but also boosts your own sense of well-being and happiness. Here’s a challenge for you, this very day, do something for someone else and DON’T LET THEM FIND OUT YOU DID IT. That is a whole lot harder to do than you think because we humans tend to like to receive “credit” for our kindness. But show some kindness anyway and be happy for the simple reason that you are kind, whether anyone else realizes it or not.

• Pursue passions and hobbies: Make time for activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it’s a creative pursuit, a sport, or a hobby, dedicating time to things you love can enhance your overall happiness.

• Exercise and health: Take care of your physical health through regular exercise, proper nutrition, and adequate sleep. Physical well-being is closely linked to mental and emotional well-being.

• Set meaningful goals: Set goals that align with your values and aspirations. Working towards meaningful objectives can provide a sense of purpose and accomplishment, contributing to your overall happiness.

• Cultivate resilience: Learn to bounce back from setbacks and challenges. Developing resilience allows you to navigate life’s ups and downs with greater ease and maintain a positive outlook. Stuff happens, it’s part of life and most stuff that happens is temporary. Never allow a temporary situation to steal even a moment of your happiness.

• Don’t sweat the small stuff: My dad lived longer with a transplanted heart than other heart transplant recipient. He was a big time worrier but once he got the new heart he was a changed man. He said the secret to happiness wasn’t just not sweating the small stuff, he said it was realizing that in the totality of life, it’s all small stuff.

Happiness is not a destination but a journey. It’s normal for feelings of happiness to ebb and flow over time. By incorporating these practices into your life and remaining open to growth and self-discovery, you can cultivate a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment.

Happiness is a choice but it’s not just a choice to simply be happy. It’s a choice to proactively seek happiness and protect it once you find it. I hope you’ll make that choice because I know that you’ll be happy you did.

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Turn, Turn, Turn

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There was a great song preformed by The Byrds. I think it was from the 1960’s or maybe the 70’s. It’s one of those songs that when you get the tune into your head it’s hard to get it out. If you pay attention to the lyrics they are hard to get out of your head too. That’s because the lyrics describe the seasons of our lives better than any song I’ve heard. 

The name of the song is Turn Turn Turn. Here are the lyrics:

To everything (turn, turn, turn)

There is a season (turn, turn, turn)

And a time to every purpose, under heaven

A time to be born, a time to die

A time to plant, a time to reap

A time to kill, a time to heal

A time to laugh, a time to weep

To everything (turn, turn, turn)

There is a season (turn, turn, turn)

And a time to every purpose, under heaven

A time to build up, a time to break down

A time to dance, a time to mourn

A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together

To everything (turn, turn, turn)

There is a season (turn, turn, turn)

And a time to every purpose, under heaven

A time of love, a time of hate

A time of war, a time of peace

A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing

To everything (turn, turn, turn)

There is a season (turn, turn, turn)

And a time to every purpose, under heaven

A time to gain, a time to lose

A time to rend, a time to sew

A time for love, a time for hate

A time for peace, I swear it’s not too late….

Our lives really are divided into seasons. I think many people know that, the challenges start when we don’t live that way. 

Much of the stress in our lives is caused by trying to extend a season for longer than it was intended. Relationships begin and end. Some last a very long time and some are gone before we know it. That’s life. 

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than risk cutting yourself trying to put them back together. 

Careers are upended, often with little or no notice. I know an individual who lost his job early in the pandemic. He hasn’t worked since. He says he just can’t let go of what he had. He can’t begin anew because he is weighted down by a season that has passed. It’s time to turn, turn, turn but he insists on remaining in the past. 

As strange as it may sound the “advice” found in the lyrics of Turn Turn Turn is pretty sound. (Pardon the pun) Everything in life has a beginning and an end, when we remember that it makes the transition from one season to another a little easier. 

Let go what needs letting go of and realize that most everything will eventually need to be let go. When you do, you’ll live a happier and more productive life. 

Living Up to Expectations

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I’m a huge disappointment to some people. I don’t know who exactly but I’m sure I’ve disappointed some people along to way to where I am, which is right where I want to be. 

While I may have not lived up to other people’s expectations for my life I’ve most definitely lived up to mine so I’m good. In fact, very good. 

I’ve known plenty of people who have lived a stress filled life. Much of their stress was caused by trying to live up to other people’s expectations for their life. They didn’t want to disappoint anyone. I would frequently try to help them by pointing out that they were someone too and their expectations for their life mattered most.

If you truly want a happy life the first thing you need to know is that you are not obligated to live up to anyone’s expectations except your own. Your needs and wants matter! You may not live longer but you’ll live a lot better if you do things because YOU care about them. If you do things because YOU feel they are the right thing to do. You’ll be a ton happier if you stop doing things because someone else expects you to.

Sometimes living up to your own expectations will mean going it alone. That’s okay, you don’t need someone holding your hand every step of the way. You don’t need anyone’s permission to live your life. Some people who begin your journey with you will fall way before you finish. Don’t feel bad that they are in their own path…that’s why we are called individuals. 

Don’t let anyone tell you what’s possible for you. People will try to put their expectations on you with seemingly harmless little phrases like, “be realistic.” If people like Steve Jobs had been realistic I wouldn’t be writing this on an iPad right now. Trust your instincts, only you know  what’s possible for you. Trusting yourself, believing in yourself, is the most realistic thing you’ll ever do. 

One of my great mentors once told me that every person has three versions of themselves. The version that other people think they are. The person they think they need to be, that’s the version of ourselves that we try to portray to other people. Then there’s the third version, that’s who we really are. We rarely show that person to other people, sometimes we even try to hide it from ourselves.

When we try to live up to someone else’s expectations it creates huge “gaps” between those 3 versions. Those gaps create stress in our lives. Living up to your own expectations closes those gaps. But you must be honest with yourself about what and who you want to be. You must also be willing to disappoint a few people who think they know you better than you know yourself.

The best advice I’ve ever received is the best advice I can ever give. That advice is to be you. The right people, the people who should be in your life will find you. The right people will accept you as you are. Their expectations for you will be what YOU want for yourself. The people who care about you will help you along the way. They will finish the journey with you. 

It’s hard to completely shut out other people’s expectations for your life. But the more you can live your life according to YOUR own expectations the better your life will be. 

The Power of Gratitude

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Of all the attributes successful people possess few are more important than a grateful heart.

Back in my days of working with the Dale Carnegie Organization there was a 50 something guy in one of our classes who looked very successful. He obviously had money, drove his choice of the many fancy cars he owned. He had houses (notice I didn’t say homes) around the world in which he could live comfortably. At first glance he appeared to have it all.

But it was never enough. He was one of the most unhappy and “relationship poor” people I had ever met.

The stories he told were in stark contrast to the ones told by a 30 something guy with 5 kids. It seemed as if every example from the younger man was laced with struggles and challenges that the older man knew nothing about. His stories were also filled with something else missing from the older man’s…a grateful heart.

He appreciated the opportunity every challenge presented him. He appreciated the chance to learn and overcome obstacles which he knew would better prepare him for the future. He found “the silver lining” in every cloud.

It was in that particular 12 week Dale Carnegie course that I learned about the true power of gratefulness.

The older, more successful appearing man in the 12 week program knew nothing of his gifts. He knew little of his actual strengths, and he had long ago surrendered his power to be happy.

The younger man’s thoughts were focused on appreciating what he had, not what he wanted. He was thankful for what he was able to earn. Thankful for his God given gifts that made it possible for him to support his family. Thankful for his one overcrowded home in a modest neighborhood and I suspect thankful every time his 20 year old car actually started.

He was happy and as far as he was concerned, one of the richest people on earth.

Now I ask you…which of those two men was the most successful?

You may find this difficult to believe if you find yourself struggling. You will find it hard to believe if you’re a “keeping up with the Joneses” type person. But your greatest happiness is within you, not in chasing what you’re without.

Practice gratefulness each day. Absolutely work hard for your dreams but make time each day to also appreciate what you already have.

If you find it hard to be grateful for what you have today it’s very likely you’ll find it just as hard to be grateful for what you may have tomorrow. It has been my experience that an ungrateful heart is also an unhappy one.

“Things” will never make you happy but the power of gratitude most certainly will. If nothing else, be grateful for that.

Be the Very Best You

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You are more, way more, than good enough. There is no need to try to be something you’re not just because some fool may have told you at some point in your life that you weren’t good enough.

You are special. You are unique. You are the way you are for a purpose. If other people don’t know your purpose then that’s their problem. If you don’t know your purpose then that’s your problem…and it’s kind of a big one.

It’s a problem for you because not understanding your purpose will often prevent you from accomplishing it. Not knowing, and living, your purpose in life can also cause you to attempt to live a life you’re not meant to live. It can cause you to pretend to be something, or worse, someone you’re not.

This is a pretty big statement but I’m going to say it anyway: you are always better off being yourself then you are trying to be someone that somebody else thinks you should be. I do not believe it possible to be truly happy living solely for other people. I do not believe life-long happiness can come from chasing other people’s dream for you. No matter how well meaning their dreams for you might be.

To stop any temptation to try living out someone else’s idea of what your life should be you need to discover your purpose in life. That can be a life long journey and it can change over time. That’s okay. If whatever you’re doing today is on purpose and for a purpose then it doesn’t matter if that purpose is different from last year or next.

People discover their purpose in life in different ways. Some kind of stumble upon it and some are very intentional about finding it. Some people are living it and not even realizing it. But living it and not realizing it still makes it possible for someone else’s judgment about your life to knock you off the track of a purposeful life.

So I recommend the intentional route.

Try to discover what drives you. When I was a younger salesperson I loved chasing a deal. I especially loved earning the business of a customer who had previously said they would never buy from me. Sales kinda came naturally to me.

But what was even more fulfilling to me was helping other people chase down a deal that I believed they could get even when they didn’t. I don’t know why but I’ve always liked seeing other people succeed with my help, even if I didn’t get “credit” for it. I admit that hasn’t always served my career well but it has served my life well.

Discover what you’re willing to sacrifice to live a life of purpose. It sounds like a generality but if you’re not making any sacrifices to live a life of purpose then the life you’re living might not be all that purposeful.

Lots of people want to do things. But out of all those people it’s the ones willing to make a sacrifice to do them that will actually accomplish them. Most everyone you ask would say that they would like to make a difference in the world if only they could. But when asked what they would give up to make that difference too many lose interest pretty quickly. Those people will always struggle to live a purpose driven life.

When I think of living a purpose driven life I’m reminded of a poem I first heard years ago. Here it is: “Your task is to build a better world,” said God. I answered, “how? The world is such a large, vast place, so complicated now. And I, so small and helpless. There’s nothing I can do.” And God, in His great wisdom said, “just build a better you!”

One of the most effective ways to discover your purpose in life is to focus on building a better you. If you’re living the life that someone else wants you to live or if you’re pretending to be someone you’re not, the process of building a better you will stop that in its tracks.

Don’t try to be someone or something you’re not. Be the very best you that you can possibly be and you’ll have success and happiness all the days of your life.