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Finding Happiness

Steve Keating 2 Comments

There was a popular song from years past that said “don’t worry, be happy.” It was a catchy tune and it hung around as a favorite song for longer than average.

While the song actually had some decent advice for fighting worry like “In every life we have some trouble but when you worry, you make it double.” Which is in fact true.

But just saying don’t worry, be happy isn’t going to get it done for most people.

Truly finding happiness is a complex and deeply personal journey. What brings happiness can vary greatly from person to person. However, here are some general ideas and practices that many people find helpful in cultivating happiness, even in the chaotic world in which we live today.

• Gratitude: Cultivating a sense of gratitude for what you have can significantly increase happiness. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re thankful for, whether they’re big or small. This is the very first thing I try to do each day, it sets a grateful tone for the day and helps make the chaos of the day a little less stressful.

• Positive relationships: Surround yourself with supportive and positive people. Nurture your relationships with friends, family, and loved ones. Connecting with others and feeling a sense of belonging can bring immense joy.

• Mindfulness and living in the present: Practice mindfulness and being fully present in the moment. Engage in activities that allow you to immerse yourself in the present experience. Pay attention to your surroundings, the world and the people in it are pretty amazing. On any given day there is plenty happening right around you that can turn a frown into a smile.

• Acts of kindness: Engage in acts of kindness and generosity towards others. Helping others not only benefits them but also boosts your own sense of well-being and happiness. Here’s a challenge for you, this very day, do something for someone else and DON’T LET THEM FIND OUT YOU DID IT. That is a whole lot harder to do than you think because we humans tend to like to receive “credit” for our kindness. But show some kindness anyway and be happy for the simple reason that you are kind, whether anyone else realizes it or not.

• Pursue passions and hobbies: Make time for activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it’s a creative pursuit, a sport, or a hobby, dedicating time to things you love can enhance your overall happiness.

• Exercise and health: Take care of your physical health through regular exercise, proper nutrition, and adequate sleep. Physical well-being is closely linked to mental and emotional well-being.

• Set meaningful goals: Set goals that align with your values and aspirations. Working towards meaningful objectives can provide a sense of purpose and accomplishment, contributing to your overall happiness.

• Cultivate resilience: Learn to bounce back from setbacks and challenges. Developing resilience allows you to navigate life’s ups and downs with greater ease and maintain a positive outlook. Stuff happens, it’s part of life and most stuff that happens is temporary. Never allow a temporary situation to steal even a moment of your happiness.

• Don’t sweat the small stuff: My dad lived longer with a transplanted heart than other heart transplant recipient. He was a big time worrier but once he got the new heart he was a changed man. He said the secret to happiness wasn’t just not sweating the small stuff, he said it was realizing that in the totality of life, it’s all small stuff.

Happiness is not a destination but a journey. It’s normal for feelings of happiness to ebb and flow over time. By incorporating these practices into your life and remaining open to growth and self-discovery, you can cultivate a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment.

Happiness is a choice but it’s not just a choice to simply be happy. It’s a choice to proactively seek happiness and protect it once you find it. I hope you’ll make that choice because I know that you’ll be happy you did.

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Not Everyone Will Like You

Steve Keating 5 Comments

There are few things in life I’m more sure of than this…not everyone likes me. I think I’ve always been fine with that fact. If there was a time it bothered me it was so long ago that I can’t remember.

I’d would much rather be unliked by some and happy than be liked by everyone and miserable because I can’t just be me. I suppose somewhere in the world there might be somebody who is universally liked and happy too but I’ve not yet met them. And I’ve met a whole lotta people.

I want to urge you to resist the temptation of thinking it’s bad when someone doesn’t like you. I strongly urge you to ignore that little voice in your head telling you that it’s your fault they don’t like you.

There is no fault. Some people will love you, some people will like you and some people won’t like you. That’s neither good or bad, it simply is what it is.

You should pay attention to the advice you receive from the people who love you. They may not, in fact they will not, always say the nicest things to you. But if they love you they will have your best interests in mind, so consider everything they say to you, whether you want to hear it or not.

When it comes to the people who like you I’d advise being very cautious about listening too closely to what they say. You may disagree agree with this but “friends” don’t always have your best interests in mind. Unlike the people who love you, their motives may be questionable. I don’t mean to disparage anyone’s friends, I’m only saying to be aware.

But what about the people who don’t like you? Well this may surprise you but you can learn a lot from those people. Their “advice” is often not meant to be advice. It may be delivered in a hostile manner or even through a third party behind your back.

But you would be wise to give it serious consideration because if one person sees a possible flaw in you others may see it too. Maybe not but maybe. The most successful people are willing to consider even the harshest criticism as an opportunity to learn and grow. People who don’t like you may in fact be more honest with you than the people who do like you.

Their intention may be to hurt you but that’s their problem. You still have the potential to strengthen and improve yourself with the very words that were intended to do you harm.

Or, you may determine, as I often do, that their words carry no merit and you can dismiss them. But DO NOT dismiss them without a pretty healthy dose of HONEST self-reflection. You will be better for it.

There’s enough people in the world who don’t like me that if I failed to learn from them I might not learn very much at all. It might be the same for you…just a little something to consider.