Surviving? What the heck is that. No one survives the holiday season; everyone loves it. It is, after all, the most wonderful time of the year.
Except when it’s not.
And for a lot of people, it is absolutely not. In fact, the holiday season can be tough, especially if you’re dealing with stress, grief, loneliness, or other personal struggles. If that’s where you find yourself, here are a few ideas that may help.
1. Be Realistic About the Holidays
Remember, they don’t have to be perfect. Focus on what really matters to you, not what everyone else expects.
It’s okay to say no to things that feel overwhelming. You don’t have to do everything.
2. Make a Plan
Identify what makes the season tough for you (e.g., money, social pressure, memories).
Be honest about what you can handle. If you can’t host a party, don’t feel pressured to.
If money is a concern, plan ahead for gifts, meals, and travel. You can also find free or low-cost activities.
3. Take Care of Yourself
Make time for rest and relaxation. Take breaks when you need them. Quiet moments can help you recharge.
Eat as healthy as you can, move your body, and get enough sleep.
Limit alcohol if it is making you feel stressed or sad.
4. Stay Connected (or Not)
If you’re lonely, reach out to friends, family, or community groups. You can also volunteer—it’s a great way to feel connected.
If you need some alone time, that’s okay too. Plan activities that bring you peace, like reading, hiking, or watching your favorite movie. If I may, I’d suggest “It’s a Wonderful Life” because, well, because it is really a wonderful life, even if it is hard to see sometimes.
5. Manage Grief or Sadness
If you’re grieving or feeling sad, take your time. There’s no rush to “move on.”
Seek support from friends, family, or a counselor if you need it.
Remember, it’s okay to not be okay.
Don’t feel bad about feeling bad during the holidays. You are far from alone in wishing you could just skip December. Here are some of the ways others who struggle with this time of year have gotten through it.
Write down what you’re feeling or talk to a friend; letting your feelings out can be super therapeutic.
Create new traditions, such as lighting a candle for a loved one or starting a special ritual, can bring comfort.
Focus on what you can control; small joys like decorating your space, enjoying a favorite meal, or sending heartfelt cards can brighten your day.
Plan an escape, if necessary, and if possible, take a trip or focus on a project that takes your mind off the usual holiday stress.
Remember, it’s okay to not feel okay during the holidays. The key is to be kind with yourself and prioritize what helps you feel safe and supported. The holidays don’t have to be a total blast, but they can be survivable in a way that works for you.